Divorce can be tricky. And with kids involved, it can be mind-boggling.

Read how one Redditor tries to co-parent with her ex, only to be left holding the bag, the hair ties and the sniffling children.

See the story below for more information.

AITA for not picking my children up from their father’s house.

Two months ago, me (33F) and the father (36M) of my children split after 11 years together and two very young children.

I’ve been doing my best to keep the relationship civil and co-parent well.

He has a profession which has rotating hours and very long shifts. Going into this separation, I knew that his time to spend with our children was limited.

The first time he told me he would keep them overnight, I packed their little bags with everything and anything they would need.

And, since I was going to work, and it’s coincidentally, 3 minutes from his family’s house (where he is staying), I took them over in the morning, dropped them off with him and headed to work.

However, daycare has been added to the little ones’ schedules.

The very next day was their first day in daycare, but they’re enrolled in one close to where we live (very close to my mom who will drop everything to pick them up if I can’t).

It’s about a 30-minute ride from his house to the daycare.

So he told me, since he doesn’t know how to style their hair, to come over very early the next day, do their hair, dress them up, go with him to drop-off, then go to work…

I told him that that made no sense, since I would be the one running all over the place when he could just bring them over in the morning.

I would do their hair and dress them, then we could take them to daycare (literally 5 minutes from my house), and I would go to work.

He thought about it, but said ok.

Then, he shoots her this text.

Later that day, I got a text saying that it was best to just not take them to their first day because it would be too much of a hassle.

I said fine, no worries I will let the teachers know they are spending the day with dad.

After work the next day, since I’m so close, I picked them up at his house then went home.

Two weeks later (yesterday) was their second overnight stay. He was meant to pick them up at 7 a.m.

However, the mother needed a little help.

I told him that something happened at work, and I was needed to come in to deal with that, so I needed to be at the office at 8:30 a.m.

He then said, it’s best if you bring them, that way you make sure you won’t be late.

It made me feel a type of way, but I said sure, no problem.

He also told me he was going to a get-together (today) with his coworkers at 4 p.m., so he would bring the kids over by 12 p.m.

Again, I felt a type of way but said sure, it’s your only time free from work, you choose how to spend it. At 7 a.m., I load up my kids in the car and bring them to his house.

That’s when the kids get sick.

My BFF asked me to come over after work, but I declined because it’s the only time I have to be by myself.

First thing I see on my phone today is a text from him asking if I can go pick up the kids. That the youngest has the sniffles, and that he was catching it too.

And this father is still set on hanging out with friends.

I asked him if he was still planning to go to his get-together.

He said yes, but he was stopping at the pharmacy before to get allergy meds and asked again if I could pick up the kids.

I replied No.

So, he said I’ll bring them over as soon as they wake up.

So, AITA?

So what’s up with this dynamic? Is the OP in the right? Or should she be more accommodating? Let’s read what Redditors are saying in the comments below.

Redditors were direct with their thoughts.

Many agreed that the couple need an official custody plan.

One commenter said direct communication needed to stop.

Another said “no” was more than good enough.

And everyone agreed she was “NTA”.

This woman needs to stand her ground and get the law involved.

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