October 31, 2025 at 6:15 pm

Hinge Dater Gets A Condescending Message From A Woman About Her Grades, So He Reminds Her That He Is An Ivy League Student And She Is Not

by Ashley Ashbee

Male adult sitting at a table in a library

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There’s an old saying that those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.

The student throwing shade in this story has obviously not heard of it.

See how this guy put her in her place.

AITA for academically shaming somebody that academically shamed me?

I was on Hinge the other day. This girl liked me; I liked her back and we got to talking.

She mentioned it was cool I go to an Ivy League School and asked what I was studying.

Their chat is about to go off the rails.

I told her history and philosophy.

She responded with an attitude and said she thought I was smart and studying STEM like she was.

As a knee jerk reaction, I responded pointing out that I go to an Ivy.

His honesty turned into an epic burn.

Then I noted that she goes to a school with an 80% acceptance rate.

So who is she to say she’s smart and I’m not?

In hindsight it does feel childish, but I also think she opened herself up for that with her statements.

Here is what people are saying.

She’s probably generally insufferable.

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I wonder if she’s kicking herself.

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I fear social media has played a role.

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Simple as this.

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LOL good one.

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I bet she’ll try that again.

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Ashley Ashbee | Contributing Writer, Workplace & Culture

Ashley Ashbee is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in workplace dynamics, employee advocacy, and professional culture. Drawing on her real-world experience as a software consultant, she brings a unique, insider perspective to navigating office conflicts, toxic management, and trending professional dilemmas.

Holding a degree in Professional Writing from York University, Ashley combines her formal editorial training with her corporate background to deliver highly engaging, empathetic narratives. She excels at breaking down complex workplace dramas and translating them into stories that truly empower and validate modern workers.

Based in St. Catharines, Ontario, Ashley balances her time between the tech and publishing worlds with her love for the outdoors. When she isn’t consulting or writing, she can usually be found exploring local walking trails or experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen.

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