Moving is consistently ranked the second most stressful life event one can have, just under losing a loved one.

So what if you combined moving with, not LOSING a loved one, but suddenly missing them and their support?

Pretty stressful, though so would having your only time off in a year get swiped for unpacking boxes.

It’ll all make sense as you read on.

Partner going on holiday the day after moving into new house – am I being unreasonable?

I (25F) and my partner (28M) are buying our first house together.

We have been given a completion (move-in) date of the 19th of the month.

The next day (20th), he is meant to be going on a family holiday for a week.

This isn’t going over well.

I’ve told him that I think it’s selfish to leave me in the new house alone a day after moving in, and I feel abandoned.

There will be a lot of things to sort out like cleaning, unpacking, assembling furniture, arranging utilities, and dealing with essentials like a fridge freezer, blinds and WiFi.

I feel like I will be overwhelmed and lonely and like we should be starting this exciting chapter together.

But he thinks she’s taking something important from him.

He says I’m being selfish for asking him not to go/delay going because this will be his first full week off work for nearly a year and it has been planned for a while (which I do of course understand).

I was also invited on the holiday but I chose not to because I wanted to save money (due to buying a house).

After I told him how I felt, he stormed off and left me alone.

She could have gone too…

I genuinely want to be fair and hear all sides.

Is it unreasonable to expect him to delay or shorten his trip so we can get settled together?

Or should I just accept that he’s going and handle the first week on my own?

Let’s see what the comments say:

Some said just chill, it’ll be fine.

Others said this was a big problem.

And/or a weird mistake.

Here’s hoping they can figure it out.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.