Everyone carries certain scars from their childhood, and sometimes those old wounds flare up in unexpected ways.

For one individual, it resurfaced when her boyfriend brushed off her limits during a run.

What should have been a simple routine started to feel like history repeating itself all over again.

You’ll want to read on for this one.

AITAH For avoiding working out with my partner

I come from a background of my father body shaming my mom almost my entire childhood.

My dad would also throw shame to me and my sister for not being good at sports.

This has proved to come back to haunt her in her dating life.

My partner likes sports and I like him because he is active, but we had a fight some months ago where he told me I don’t wanna run hard enough, so I like doing hard things.

This did hurt me because of trauma, I guess.

She already struggles enough when it comes to staying active, and she likes to stick to what she knows works.

And also because it IS hard to come back from work and work out. I really struggle with being consistent, but I do.

I lost a lot of weight without anyone training me.

But when she confronts her boyfriend about her feelings, he doesn’t really seem to care.

I did tell him that it hurt when he said that, and he stated, “It’s a hard truth.”

I expressed it might be, but I already throw enough shame at myself for him to remind me.

Her boyfriend just won’t let up on the pressure.

So, I am currently working out, and sometimes I do go for a run.

He wants to come with me, telling me, “Let’s run for X amount of miles,” and I don’t want to because I feel it creates extra pressure for me.

AITA?

This person deserves to feel fit and healthy on her own terms.

What did Reddit think?

This commenter encourages this person to follow her own limits and not anyone else’s.

Maybe a harmful pattern is beginning to emerge in this person’s close relationships.

Is this boyfriend being honest, or just being mean?

This commenter agrees this person needs to avoid working out with her boyfriend altogether.

What this person really doesn’t need is someone adding to the shame she’s already working so hard to shake off.

She deserves someone who builds her up, not tears her down.

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