Navigating the world of stepparents and stepkids is no easy task!

And this woman is really going through it.

Read the story she wrote on Reddit and see if you think she’s handling this situation the wrong way.

AITA for ‘letting’ my stepkids miss a big Mother’s Day celebration with us to be with their maternal family?

“I married my husband Mike 4 years ago and we started dating 7 years ago.

He lost his wife 10 years ago. His late wife was the mother of their twins Frankie and Kenzie (16).

From the start of my relationship with Mike the twins would celebrate Mother’s Day with their maternal family.

He decided to back off.

Mike had joined once or twice but his relationship with his late wife’s family was never super good and he felt like his presence was more uncomfortable for everyone than it was reassuring so he stepped back.

Then we met and it never even occurred to me that they would stop doing that. I did not marry Mike to be their new mom or anything silly like that.

I was marrying Mike because we loved each other and because his kids and I get along fine so we don’t have issues. But we never expected more than what would happen naturally over time.

Mike’s parents moved to be closer to all their children who all live within a 50 minute drive from each other. And they wanted to do a big Mother’s Day celebration this year.

Mike informed them that the twins wouldn’t be coming because they’ll be with their maternal family on the day. This raised some questions and they asked how I felt about it and Mike told them I never had a problem with it.

Uh oh…

This led to me getting a call a few days later and them asking me why I ‘let’ my step kids celebrate Mother’s Day elsewhere when I have been acting as their mother for 7 years…

To be clear I didn’t even know them 7 years ago.

It was 6 years ago I met them and even then I wasn’t raising them or having any real influence in their lives. I told them it’s what they always did and nothing had changed. I wasn’t going to stop it.

My in-laws said it’s very different now because my son is here now and the twins have another sibling. I told them it didn’t take from them being with their mom’s family for Mother’s Day.

They said the fact I ever let it happen was horrifying and they should be celebrating me on the day. They told me how much harm I had done to my family by allowing this to happen for so long but especially this year most of all.

AITA?”

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This person said she’s NTA.

Another individual was surprised.

This Reddit user weighed in.

Another reader shared their thoughts.

And this individual had a lot to say.

Family dynamics sure can be complicated…

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