Would you trust a person who once abandoned their child for personal freedom?

This man has been raising his son on his own since his ex walked away years ago.

Now, after years of silence, she suddenly wants to be part of their lives again.

He wants to believe people can change, but he’s unsure if she truly has.

Check out the full story below.

AITA for refusing to let my son see his own mother

I (22M) have been raising my son that I had with my ex since he was born when my ex and I were both 18.

About six months after he was born, my ex and I broke up since she would never actually take care of him.

She would leave him unattended to go out with friends while I was at work. She’d never feed him, etc.

It got to the point where I honestly thought she was actively trying to get rid of him for good since she thought he was a burden. Though she never admitted it.

This man decided to leave his ex-girlfriend.

So I decided to leave her and take my son with me.

At the time, I truly believed she was a danger to his safety as she was showing neglect.

She never really seemed to care about it.

She never fought me in court for custody and never really contacted me until about a month ago.

His ex contacted him out of the blue.

Fast forward to last month.

I’m in another relationship. I have been working and going to school actively while taking care of my son with my new girlfriend.

Out of the blue, I received a text from my ex asking how I was and whatnot.

I thought this was weird, but I decided to entertain it until she asked me to see her son.

He didn’t really like this idea.

She said that she recognizes she wasn’t necessarily the best person or mom, but she wants to see her son since she misses him and hasn’t seen him in a while.

I obviously had my concerns and told her about them.

She said that she has changed and that she wasn’t exactly in a good mental place at the time.

I told her that I had to think about it and get back to her since it was a hard decision.

His new girlfriend thinks it’s not a good idea.

I recently told my girlfriend about her texting.

And she’s adamant that my ex shouldn’t see him since she was a careless mother and never really cared.

I feel that sometimes people can change, but I don’t know if she has.

He hasn’t fully made his decision yet.

I really am on the fence about it.

While I do feel bad that she hasn’t gotten to see him, I really don’t know if she has changed and if her seeing him is a good idea.

I still haven’t gotten back to her and have been dodging her calls.

Would I be a jerk for not letting her see him?

That’s a tough situation. What’s the right thing to do?

Let’s read the responses of other people on Reddit to this story.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

This person makes a valid point.

You need to consult an attorney, advises this person.

Here’s an honest opinion.

Finally, this person thinks the ex could have had PPD.

It’s hard to trust a person who never really showed any effort.

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