We get it. Close family friends tend to stick around.

But this woman started getting uncomfortable that a close elderly friend kept showing up at her in-laws’ place

For years, this man joined every gathering, holiday, and event at their home.

So she and her fiancé finally decided to establish a boundary in their own space.

Check out the full story below for all the details.

AITA for refusing my in laws friend to come over to our house?

I’m 27, and my fiancé  is 30M.

For the last seven years, my fiancé lived with his parents before we moved into our own place.

I used to visit every weekend, and I’ve always gotten along well with my in-laws.

They do have a family friend, let’s call him Richard.

He is an older, middle-aged man and has always been around ever since I met my fiancé.

Meet Richard…

Richard is usually there from early morning until the evening, almost every day.

At first, it didn’t bother me.

Over time, it began to feel a bit uncomfortable.

Richard comes to every family gathering, holiday, and celebration.

Even when my fiancé’s parents went away for the weekend or on holidays.

Or when we were looking after the house and pets, Richard would still come over and spend time there.

This woman and her fiancé started feeling overwhelmed when dealing with Richard.

He mainly spends time with my mother-in-law.

He often shares his opinions and comments on things.

Sometimes, it can feel a little overwhelming.

As the years have passed, it has become harder because I don’t get much one-on-one time with my in-laws.

My fiancé feels the same about wanting more time alone with his parents.

They decided not to let Richard visit them in their new home.

Now that we finally have our own home, we both agreed that when his parents visit, we would really like it to just be them.

Richard is mainly their friend, and we simply want some private family time in our own space.

We let his parents know that he is, of course, welcome in their home, just not at ours.

I really dislike conflict and didn’t want to upset anyone.

It seems that Richard took it personally.

Richard got offended, so he would leave before they arrived whenever they visited her in-laws’ place.

Now, when we visit my fiancé’s parents for family dinners, he leaves before we arrive, which feels a bit unusual.

We’ve made it clear he is welcome in their home if they want him there, just not at our place.

But I do feel terrible, and I hate to be the bad guy in this.

Now, it feels like he hates me and only me, as he believes it was my decision.

Let’s see how others reacted to this story.

This person thinks they’re in a throuple.

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This user makes a valid point.

This one makes sense,  too.

Finally, don’t borrow trouble, says this one.

Some close friends think it’s okay for them to disrespect boundaries.

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