When it comes to style, everyone has their own preferences.

What would you do if you had a unique haircut, but your mom didn’t like it and told you that you should grow it out to look more professional?

That is what happened to the daughter in this story, so she yelled at her mom and said that her haircut doesn’t matter.

AITA for refusing to grow out my hair?

I (21) have a lot of conflict with my mom (45F) despite living with her.

This is a common situation.

I continue to do so because it’s a better alternative to moving out and paying twice or three times as much in rent.

Most recently, our conflict is about hair, specifically my hair.

Hair style is a very personal preference.

My hair is in a specific style, I basically cut half of it off on one side and have kept it at a very short length for about three years now.

I’m happy with it, everyone at my job loves my hair and people think it looks cool and very like me.

Mom doesn’t have to like it.

Recently, my mom has started freaking out about my hair.

She says I’ll never get a job and that it just doesn’t look good.

1. I already have a job I don’t plan on quitting anytime soon and

2. I actually have two jobs and one keeps asking for me back every year because I’m good at it, not because of my hair.

Well, Mom has the right to her opinion, I suppose, especially while living in her house.

She wants me to grow it back out just so I can get a new job and then I can cut it again once I “prove myself” at a new job.

I pretty much told her exactly this: “I’m not growing my hair out when I’ve been maintaining the same style for three years now, and it makes me happy. I’ll go to a professional if you want (I cut it myself bc it’s cheaper), but I’m not growing it out, so shut up about it.”

And that got her all upset and she called me ungrateful and a wrong for talking back to her, and how she only cares about my future.

Well, hairstyle can matter, but it isn’t the most important thing.

I feel a little bad, because I know she cares about me, but I don’t see why she can’t understand that hair doesn’t really matter.

AITA?

Maybe it is time to find a new place to live so that this type of conflict can be avoided.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

This commenter has a very reasonable reply.

Parents can be controlling sometimes.

This commenter is right.

Sometimes a hairstyle can impact job options.

This person says it is her hair and her choice.

Mom really needs to back off a bit.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.