If your spouse called and told you they couldn’t find their keys, what would you do? Would you go home to give them your keys, or would you suggest places where they might’ve left their keys?

One man was on the train to work when his wife called in a panic—she’d lost her keys right before taking their daughter to school.

While stuck on a moving train, he suggested a few obvious spots to check before he could turn around and come home.

Instead of thanking him, his wife got really upset.

Read on for the story.

AITA? Wife lost keys and I suggested places to look

This morning I (39m) was on the train to work when my wife (39f) called to say she has lost her keys, she was flustered because she was about to take our daughter to school.

Realising if they could not be found I was going to have to get off at the next stop and head back to let her in and cancel my in-office day (our policy is 2/5 days).

Since the train was moving the first thing I said was suggesting places she could look (yesterdays coat, work bag..)

To which she told me obviously she had looked in those places, she was then getting more angry because our daughter was telling her they had to leave and I was stating the obvious.

What a tense start to the morning.

So I said I’d get off at the next stop and come back to let her in.

I arrived back and she thanked me and apologised for the inconvenience outside.

Inside and getting setup to work she told me I was degrading by asking her to look in all these places when she needed an instant solution (come back).

I told her I was trying to help by suggesting places to double check and she needs to not see it as degrading when I was on a moving train so until I could get off and return it didn’t hurt to ask and double check.

The argument got pretty heated.

She kept telling me I was degrading still.

Then as I explained that wasn’t my intent she turned the TV up, snapped she needed to hear the TV and to shut up. The TV was talking about some changes that affect her job.

I said it was rude and she could have paused it. Things then snowballed into a bigger argument.

She stands by the fact I was degrading by treating her stupid for asking to check places she obviously already looked and I should have come home and been more supportive and hugged her to say I didn’t mean to make her feel stupid.

AITA???

Reddit sided with the husband, saying his reaction was calm and reasonable under the circumstances.

This person agreed his wife was likely just stressed in the moment, but turning it into a fight was unfair.

This person says her reaction was way out of line.

And this person says yes, she took it too far…but also she was probably just pretty stressed out. No biggie.

Sometimes “check your bag” isn’t condescending—it’s just common sense.

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