Even good friendships still need healthy boundaries.

This woman was in the middle of cleaning her apartment and finishing some work.

Her friend suddenly texted her, saying she’s nearby and bringing up some food.

She politely declined her friend and asked to reschedule, but her friend didn’t take it very well.

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITA for asking my friend to reschedule her surprise visit because I was already busy?

This happened last weekend.

My name is Nicole (26F) and I have a close friend, Lauren (27F).

We get along well, but she’s always been a bit spontaneous.

She loves doing grand gestures and last-minute plans.

While I’m more of a “please text me before showing up” type of person.

This woman received a text from her friend while she was cleaning her apartment.

On Saturday, I had already planned a quiet day at home to catch up on cleaning.

I also had some work stuff I’d been putting off.

Around noon, I got a text from Lauren saying, “I’m five minutes away! I brought food. Surprise!”

I honestly thought she was joking at first. She wasn’t.

She wasn’t comfortable hosting anyone at that moment.

At that exact moment, I was in the middle of reorganizing my whole apartment.

Everything was everywhere, with laundry on the couch and cleaning supplies out.

My laptop was open with deadlines I needed to work on.

I wasn’t in a place to host anyone.

I especially wasn’t ready for someone planning to hang out all afternoon.

She politely told her friend to reschedule, and her friend said okay.

So I called her and said, as politely as I could:

“Hey, I appreciate the surprise, but today really isn’t good for me.”

I asked if we could do tomorrow instead so I could be present and not rushing around stressed.

She got quiet, but said “Okay,” and left without coming up.

In the evening, she got a long text from her friend.

Later that night, I got a long text saying I killed the vibe.

She said she was trying to do something nice.

And that most friends would be happy someone brought them food and company.

She also said she felt embarrassed for trying.

I told her I wasn’t upset at all and that I appreciated the thought. I just didn’t appreciate the timing.

She left me on read.

Now, their friends are divided.

A couple mutual friends think I should’ve just let her in for an hour since she brought food.

Others said she was being inconsiderate by showing up unannounced and expecting me to drop everything.

I honestly wasn’t trying to hurt her feelings.

I just wasn’t prepared for a surprise drop-in.

AITA for not letting her come up and asking to reschedule instead?

Let’s find out what others have to say about this.

This user makes a valid point.

This one shares their personal thoughts.

Yes, exactly.

Here’s what this person would have done.

Finally, short and straightforward.

Some people aren’t meant to be surprised.

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