Family living situations can become complicated and difficult sometimes, but it is good to work together to meet the needs of everyone.

What would you do if you were living with your husband’s grandma in the house, but there wasn’t enough room for your kids?

That is what happened to the new wife in this story, so she is putting her foot down and telling her husband they need to move out.

AITA for telling my husband I won’t live under the same roof as his grandmother anymore?

My husband and I have been together for several years and married for one.

It is nice that he can help his grandmother like this.

When I moved in, I moved into his long-standing family setup. He has lived on this property for 13 years.

His grandmother lives in the larger lower-level unit, and we live in the smaller upper unit. It functions like a split-level duplex, but he always refers to it as “one house,” even though it’s really two separate living spaces connected.

This is not an ideal situation, that’s for sure.

When I first moved in, there wasn’t enough room upstairs, so my son had to sleep downstairs in his grandmother’s unit.

He shared a bedroom with my stepson. I hated the setup, but at the time I didn’t feel like I had the power to demand changes.

Fair enough, but she should have told him that before they got married.

Once we got married, I told my husband I was no longer comfortable with my son living on a different floor, especially in someone else’s space.

I didn’t want him to feel like I was choosing my stepdaughter over him or that Grandma’s house was his “real” home instead of being with me.

Grandma’s behavior would get old quickly.

On top of that, his grandmother does not respect me, my rules, or my boundaries as a parent. She gives the kids whatever they want, overrides me constantly, and treats the kids like they’re hers.

She sees her house as the primary home, and everything I try to set as a parent gets undone the minute they’re with her.

Yup, it is time to find a new place to live.

Now I’m pregnant, and we are completely out of space. We need an actual family home with privacy, consistency, and boundaries.

I suggested two possible solutions: 1. We switch houses with his grandmother so we can have the bigger space. Or 2, we switch houses with his parents across the street.

He is just avoiding the conflict.

Every time I try to talk about boundaries, my husband says he “doesn’t understand” what I mean and thinks I’m overreacting.

But I feel like we’ve been living in his family’s world for years and I’ve just had to adapt. I want our own home, our own routines, and to raise our kids without interference.

This seems like a pretty normal desire.

So, I told him that I no longer want to live under the same roof (or same building) as his grandmother. I need a separate, private home environment for our family.

He acts like I’m being unreasonable for wanting to move or change the setup.

AITA?

I’m guessing there are some cultural differences here, but her husband needs to talk about this and find a solution that works for everyone.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

Here is a commenter who says she can leave if she wants.

She should have never married him.

I am guessing there is a cultural thing going on.

She kept making it worse.

Yeah, that was a mistake.

Why did she think he would change?

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