Insecure Fiancé Broke Up With His Hardworking Fiancée Because She Used To Earn More Than Him, So She Simply Walked Out Of The Relationship Without Questioning Him
by Sarrah Murtaza

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Having an envious spouse can really make a relationship cripple!
This girl shares how her boyfriend broke up with her because she made more money than him.
Check out the full story.
AITAH for being disgusted and just saying OK when my Fiancé broke up with me?
I (28) had been with my fiancé (Alex 34) since 2020. We met at a friend’s party, hit it off, and have/had been together ever since.
Things were great between them at first…
He finished his Doctorate in Economics just last year. Since then he has been working at the Uni. I have my Master’s in Media Sciences and decided to start working instead of going for a PhD.
Okay… so the problem is that Alex broke up with me last Monday. It was literally so surreal and honestly… just weird.
For the past few months, he’d been acting strange. He was making demands and then dropping them immediately.
This is where their relationship started crippling…
A few examples: he told me we were going to paint our walls back from dark green to white. When I asked why, he just said, “For ****’s sake, forget it,” and never brought it up again, even when I asked.
Another time, he came home and got mad because I was sitting on the couch with my head covered in a blanket (I had cramps).
He was upset because I was “just sitting there watching Netflix” (mind you, the house was spotless). When I tried to talk about it, he said, “Forget it, it’s not a big deal.”
This kind of thing became common.
UH OH…
Every time I tried to communicate… tried to figure out what was going on, whether it was something I did or maybe he was just stressed at work… he would just say everything was fine, but he was clearly seething with rage.
I didn’t even have to do anything; he would find something to complain about (the apartment, clothes, me, work, etc.).
So, I gave him space, which apparently was also wrong. I told him I was going to help my parents with repairs for a few days, and somehow that was also wrong because he wanted to renovate the apartment too.
Then, on Monday, I got a text saying we needed to talk. I knew what was coming, and after the last few months, I had made peace with it.
That sounds BAD!
When I came home, he was sitting on the couch. He didn’t even wait for me to take off my jacket before saying, “I want to break up.” Then the verbal diarrhea started.
He told me he resented me. First, because I didn’t pursue my academic career further, even though I was capable, and he didn’t want to upset me at the time.
Then, when I started making more money (since he didn’t make much as a PhD student), he felt like I should have the last word financially, and he hated it.
Mind you, I never said anything like “it’s my money, so I have the final say.” That’s a rule he imposed on himself, and he hated it.
Things got worse…
He said he hated our paint scheme, the couch, and even our crockpot.
Then, he told me he had rejected a better PhD program to stay here because I had already started my job by the time he got the acceptance letters. Only, he never told me he had even applied overseas.
He said a few months ago he checked in with a friend who’s in that program, saw how they were thriving, and decided I ruined his life.
He said I had too much control over his life and that he hated the idea that I could just decide not to pay for things and “mess him over” (I honestly don’t even know what that means).
He was expecting to get a reaction out of her!
He also said he hated that all his friends loved me and didn’t let him vent about me.
Then he said again, “I’m done.”
I was floored. I had already made peace with the idea that we were ending, and it hurt, but after that rant, I was just disgusted. I looked at him, probably with a disgusted expression, and said, “Okay.”
He lost it. He said this is exactly what he meant… that it was horrible. We had been together for four years, and all I had to say was “okay” to our breakup?
I just asked if he wanted to stay here while he figured out where to go. He said, “Typical, of course you’re holding the apartment over me,” and started ranting again, so I just left.
They couldn’t make things work!
I told my parents, and they’re also confused. My dad suggested I reach out to our landlord and explain the situation to see what options I have. I can keep paying the rent no problem myself. He covered the utilities and some subscriptions.
Just to reiterate, I never had a problem with this. I saw that he was chasing his dream, and that was more important to me than a 50/50 financial split.
I make good money and am happy at my job. I never saw it as “slaving away.”
I always had the mentality that my money was our money because we were building a life together. Of course, I had my own savings and fun money, but I honestly never cared.
That’s INSANE!
As long as I felt he was working towards something and wasn’t taking advantage of me, I was fine with it. More than fine.
Alex is still mad.
He’s going between texting me like a robot about the logistics of the split to being a seething maniac complaining about everything.
I’m not even hurt anymore. I just feel nauseated by him at this point.
I don’t know. Should I have reacted differently?
OUCH! That must’ve hurt…
Why wouldn’t they communicate their feelings?
Let’s find out how people on Reddit reacted to this one.
This user knows this guy really hates his girlfriend.

Exactly! This user knows this girl’s response was correct.

This user knows this boyfriend is his own enemy.

This user thinks this story might have an alternative issue.

This user knows wage differences shouldn’t stand between couples!

Somebody’s made a huge mistake here!
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