In some relationships, everything you do tends to be analyzed intensely and then misinterpreted. But that tends to happen for a reason.

See the tension that erupted in this story from a slight inconvenience and why honesty is the best policy.

AITA for taking a few minutes to meet my gf and “faking” that I didn’t know where she was

I messaged my girlfriend that I was finished with my exam. She was waiting for me at the school canteen. It took me about 5 minutes to get there because I stopped to say a quick goodbye to some friends on my way out.

When I showed up, she was already counting the minutes and was upset that I took “too long” to walk a short distance.

It’s hard to de-escalate the situation.

She asked what took me so long and I explained that I actually thought she was waiting at the library instead of the canteen. She immediately called me out, saying it was a pathetic excuse because she had mentioned the canteen multiple times earlier.

Because I felt like I was being interrogated over a 5-minute delay, I got pretty frustrated.

I started taking deep breaths and trying to stay silent to keep my composure, as I didn’t want to start a loud argument in a crowded public area.

But that just made matters worse.

She saw me doing this and got even angrier, claiming I was giving her an attitude and being “difficult” just for asking a simple question.

My girlfriend believes I am lying about the library mix-up to cover for the fact that I prioritize my friends over her time.

She also pointed out that I made the choice to take public transit home with her instead of using my car, and now she feels like I’m acting like she’s a burden or that I’m “martyring” myself just to throw it in her face later.

All of his efforts seem to work against him.

I wasn’t being dishonest; I genuinely just had a brain fart about where we agreed to meet.

I feel like being grilled over 5 minutes is exhausting and my “attitude” was actually me trying to be the bigger person and stay calm so we didn’t have a scene. Now the commute home is completely silent and she thinks I’m “ignoring” her on purpose.

AITA?

Here is what folks are saying.

Good questions.

Not sure why they’re together.

If you’re honest, you don’t have to deal with these things.

I don’t get it, but it sounds like she has reasons to be suspicious in general.

So does she!

They should probably break up.

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