She Cared for Her Dying Father Alone for Years—Then His Estranged Kids Showed Up Furious About the Funeral
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Sometimes, people let hard feelings keep them away from family for so long that they run out of time to make things right.
Today, we meet a woman whose half-siblings blamed her for their parents’ divorce and treated her badly for years.
Then, when she turned 18, they told their dad to kick her out or lose them forever.
So, when he refused, they cut him off and never came back. Not even after he developed lung cancer.
Knowing he needed help, she became his main caregiver, and when he died, she was the one left planning the funeral.
Read on for the full story.
AITA for not allowing my half-sibling to attend our dad’s funeral?
I was an affair baby. I am now 25 years old (female), and my father’s funeral was this weekend. I need an outside opinion. I am not going to hide the fact that I find my half-siblings to be *****. So my perspective is very biased on this.
Growing up, they hated the fact that I existed and blamed me for their mom and my dad getting a divorce.
Luckily, I didn’t see them all the time, but when I did, they were ********. Their mother was also a **** toward me. I only saw her a few times, weddings and funerals mostly. I saw the half-siblings much more often due to them having custody time with our dad when I was also in the home.
Her step-siblings always did everything they could to hurt her.
I get it. They were mad that our dad had an affair and I popped out. I know their mother didn’t help with this. They sucked; they would bully me, steal my stuff, and try to get me in trouble all the time.
One memorable incident was my older half-sister stealing my anxiety medicine and laughing when I had a panic attack. My dad got me into therapy, and it helped a lot. The half-siblings, though, never got into therapy because their mother fought it constantly.
When I turned 18, my siblings told our dad I needed to leave. Basically, he needed to kick me out and make me homeless, or they would not speak to him anymore. He didn’t kick me out, and they haven’t spoken to him since, not even when he got sick.
When the funeral came around, she didn’t invite them.
My dad got lung cancer, and he passed away. I was the main caregiver to him, and my half-siblings never reached out, even though he reached out multiple times.
I was the one who had to plan the funeral. I had to do everything.
I decided not to invite my half-siblings. I am of the personal opinion that if you go no-contact with someone and avoid them when they are dying, you don’t get to be at the funeral.
Now, they found out and won’t leave her alone.
I also don’t want to see them. I greatly dislike them, and I would not be able to handle it if they said anything nasty toward me.
The funeral happened, and the half-siblings learned about it. I believe my aunt told them. They are angry, and I have gotten multiple messages about how I am heartless and that it was their dad too.
I haven’t responded, and they are asking for some of his ashes, and I really don’t wish to give them any.
AITA?
Wow! It’s always amazing how cold and mean people can be to each other.
Let’s check out what the people over at Reddit think about her decision.
These are all valid points.
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Here’s a good question.
According to this comment, it seems she did what she was required to do.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a brother who is concerned about the trouble with splitting funeral costs equally between siblings.
This person doesn’t think she did anything wrong.
This is what happens when people stay away for too long.
Her half-siblings made their choice years ago, and even when their dad got sick, they still didn’t come back.
Meanwhile, she was the one caring for him and handling everything after he died.
They may regret it now, but unfortunately, there are some chances you don’t get back once they’re gone.
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