I hate to play the devil’s advocate, but if you move into a person’s house, you kind of have to play by the rules.

I know, I know, life isn’t fair…but it is what it is!

Still, I can totally acknowledge being annoyed by a roommate’s behavior…even if they happen to also be the landlord.

Check out what this guy is dealing with when it comes to his living situation.

Hang on tight!

My roommate is my landlord.

“My roommate/landlord is smoking pot indoors and doesn’t respect my boundaries.

I recently moved into a condo that my landlord/roommate owns. I moved across the country for grad school and didn’t know anyone in town, so I didn’t have a lot of options for who to live with.

We met on a roommate match site, and I indicated on my page that I never smoke/vape and prefer a roommate of the like. The first time we video chatted, they told me they have a medical card, but they don’t really use it and they’ll never be smoking inside.

Well, that was a lie!

Over the past month since moving in, it’s become very clear they lied about this to get me to sign the lease, move in, and help them pay their mortgage.

Up until last week, they’ve mostly just used a dab pen and a bong. I haven’t minded because they use the bong in their room, door closed, window open and the smell never really makes it to my room.

But a few nights ago the smell was MUCH worse.

They were smoking joints indoors, continuously between like 10 pm – 3 am with the door open so it kept me up. I had so many candles going in my room and got really stressed out from the smell and couldn’t relax.

I discussed this with them the following morning. I said I don’t have any problem with them using the pen or bong indoors because the smell is more tame, but the joints stressed me out and affected my space a lot.

I asked if they would be willing to smoke them outdoors in the future and they told me they’ll just do it when I’m not here like they have in the past. I was confused, and reiterated that if they could do it outside I’d appreciate it.

Hmmm…

They then told me, “Well, it’s my house, so I’m going to smoke in it.”

I was taken aback because I was polite and approached the conversation lightly, explaining how their actions directly affected me.

I felt really blown off and kind of disrespected. I don’t feel like I was asking a lot. I thought their response was really ironic, considering that the lease says that I, the tenant, cannot smoke indoors. I feel like their response was on par with someone who isn’t able to recognize how their actions affect others.

And it’s actually why I was afraid to discuss this with her because of the “I’m the landlord and you’re just the tenant” attitude when at the end of the day, we are still roommates. They can’t just do whatever they want because they own the place…

Now things are awkward…

Anyway, since this conversation, I’ve been receiving the silent treatment. Which they sometimes give me unintentionally when they’re in a bad mood or just don’t want to interact with people. But I’ve gotten the vibe that this time is different.

Any suggestions, advice, or alternative point of views?

I’d like to try to make the living situation work, but also at the end of the day I’m not afraid to break the lease if in a month or two things aren’t any better, especially if they’re attitude on this escalates to other areas.

It’s gotten to the point where I don’t want to spend time at home because it just feels so hard to relax when they are there.”

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Now let’s see what readers had to say about this.

This person shared their thoughts.

Another Reddit user spoke up.

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And this individual weighed in.

Yeah, it definitely doesn’t sound like these two should be living together.

But…he knew he was moving in with someone who owned the place.

It sounds like he needs to find a new place to live ASAP.