What’s love got to do with it? Very little in this case.

What would you do if you disagreed with how your spouse was coping with their estranged child’s wedding? One man recently sought advice from the doghouse about this one on Reddit.

Here’s what went down.

AITAH for circumventing my wife’s plans regarding her son’s wedding?

My wife and stepson had a huge fight after he graduated high school, and it never really got resolved.

Whenever he visits the fight inevitably reignites.

Unresolved tension always has a way of bubbling up.

However, when he decides not to visit, she feels slighted and gets angry.

He is getting married, and we are all invited.

My wife’s plan is as follows: we get up at the crack of dawn to drive two and a half hours to the wedding, then we go to the reception, then we drive two and a half hours home.

That already sounds exhausting.

We do not attend any pre-wedding events, of which there are several and we are invited to almost all of.

Yeah, I’m not doing that.

I said we will drive down Thursday evening and attend the rehearsal dinner.

I will go to the bachelor party on Friday.

We will enjoy a peaceful Saturday.

We will get up at a reasonable hour on Sunday and go to the wedding, then the reception, then we will sleep in Monday and drive home.

Seems like this guy’s got it all figured out.

I know why my wife doesn’t want to do the long weekend.

She wants to punish her son.

Well, I refuse to catch a stray and suffer to aid her punishment of him.

I want to enjoy the wedding, not hear about how terrible we were about it at every family reunion for the next eon.

She says he’s her son, and it’s her decision.

I told her, do what you want.

Likely not the response she wanted there, bud.

I’m taking the kids on Thursday.

Come with us or don’t.

I’m not playing this game. I’m not embarrassing myself in front of the extended family just to present a united front.

Not being a united front does hold more potential embarrassment.

Anyway, I’m typing this from the guest bedroom, because that’s where I’m sleeping tonight.

My friends, who I thought would be on my side, said I’m being an idiot.

He’s her son, so I should just support her and do what she wants.

That feels oversimplified.

I get that he’s not my kid, but that’s not going to be a very good defense in ten years when all the kids are reminiscing about what a jerk I was when their brother got married because I hadn’t slept the night before.

Am I being a bad husband or a good dad?

Yikes, this is a tough one. Let’s see what the good folks of Reddit had to chime in with.

The comments were a front united in favor of the original poster.

And offered a good deal of support.

Others thought through the logistics.

Some pointed out the nuance of the situation.

Though one person offered a word of warning.

Something old, something new, something borrowed and something cruel.

If you enjoyed that story, read this one about a mom who was forced to bring her three kids with her to apply for government benefits, but ended up getting the job of her dreams.