The holidays are always hectic.

This man’s best friend flew in for the holidays, but he’s been busy with his girlfriend and his store, while his friend has been busy with other plans, too.

The friends couldn’t find a suitable time to meet up, and he got blamed for it.

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AITA if I’m unable to find time for my long distance friends when they visit?

My best friend (31M) moved to Florida a few years ago, so we don’t really see each other much in person. He’s married now and recently had a kid, but we do talk most days and play video games online together here and there.

I (30M) understand the frustration of not being able to hang out in person, but we’re in our early thirties now, and there’s a lot going on.

I own a retail store, and it’s very busy during the holidays. Christmas and New Year’s are the two busiest times of the year. He was flying down with his wife and 6-month-old baby between 12/20 and 12/26 and told me this a few days before they flew down.

Saturday (12/20) is my girlfriend’s birthday, and she and I had planned to be together and go to a Winter Wonderland light show together since Thanksgiving, and overall just spend that weekend together.

I offered for my friend to join us at Winter Wonderland around 5:00 p.m. They said they couldn’t do that, then said we could probably meet around 7:30–8:00 p.m. He said his baby had to be in bed by 8:00 p.m., so they couldn’t.

This man’s best friend got upset with him for not having the time to meet up.

Today, I gave times and dates I could meet up either in between or after work, but the schedules just didn’t align. I have to give my employees a day off, which is today (Monday, 12/22), meaning I work all day alone until 7:00 p.m.

I’m able to meet later at night for dinner or just to meet up, but that doesn’t work for them, as the baby needs to be in bed by 8:00 p.m. The times I offered, such as Tuesday (12/23), don’t work either because they have prior plans.

Because of this, they’re upset with me since I can’t meet up. However, I’ve given up to four separate instances where I’m available; it’s just that those times don’t work for them, yet they’re still upset with me.

I’m trying to make it work, but this always happens whenever a plan is being made to meet up. The schedules don’t add up, and then I get blamed for it.

It sounds like they’re making me out to be a bad friend, and it makes me feel bad, but I am genuinely trying. It’s just that over the holidays, it’s really tough with work, and I already had pre-planned things with my girlfriend the weekend they flew in.

What a conundrum! But true friends understand.

Let’s read what other people in the comments section are saying.

This user is curious.

It happens, says this one.

This reader offers some perspective.

Another person chimes in.

And this one takes his side.

Sometimes, life gets in the way of friendship.

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