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Many titles exist for the sole purpose of making all the work that comes with a job a little more worth it.

One friend spent years assuming she’d be maid of honor for her best friend’s wedding, only to get replaced by the bride’s brother.

She would have been fine with that, but when the bride informed her that she still expected her to carry out all the maid of honor duties without the title, the whole arrangement started to feel extremely lopsided.

She was left with a difficult choice: swallow her pride and comply, or walk away and risk the friendship entirely.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for threatening to quit my best friend’s bridal party if I’m not made the Maid of Honor?

My (F27) best friend (F28) is getting married! Yay!

We’ve been best friends since 7th grade, and she was the MOH in my wedding a few years back.

So she had grand expectations when it came to her best friend’s wedding, but those expectations were quickly dashed.

When she got engaged, I assumed I was going to be her MOH, but she told me that instead, she wants her brother (M26) to be Man of Honor.

I was a tiny bit offended, but okay. I figured I’d get to spend less money and effort, no arguments there.

But there’s one (big) catch.

Then I find out that she still expects me to do all the maid of honor duties.

I’m throwing the bachelorette party, I’m helping buy or DIY decor, I’m the point person for questions and problems on the wedding day.

Of course, the bride-to-be has a convenient excuse at the ready, but this scorned bridesmaid isn’t buying it.

Her excuse as to why her brother can’t do any of this? “He’s such a young guy, I can’t count on him.”

When I pointed out that he’s older than my husband, she just brushed me off.

So she decided she wasn’t going to put up with the drama.

I got mad. I told her that if I’m doing all the MOH work, I want the MOH title, or else I’ll walk.

Maybe I’m vain for wanting the title, but I do.

AITA?

All the work with no title? Not happenin’.

What did Reddit think?

This user advises backing out of the bridal party entirely.

This bride’s expectations are totally out of line.

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Walking away does come with its risks.

If you enjoyed this post, check out this story about a woman who got family pushback after gifting jewelry to her stepdaughter.

The responsibilities come with the title. That’s kind of the deal.

Being the maid of honor isn’t always a fun job. Wrangling the bachelorette party, the decor, and every logistical headache on the big day. None of those things are a walk in the park, but for the honorable distinction, many women are willing to do it.

So when all of that honor is sidestepped, the deal looks a lot less appealing. This woman isn’t in the wrong for recognizing that.

At the end of the day, the bride should have never put her in this position to begin with.

If the bride’s brother is ready to bear the title, he should be ready to bear the responsibilities that come with it.

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Benjamin Cottrell

Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture

Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.

As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.

When he isn’t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.

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