Restaurant Owner Kept Correcting His Server in Front of Customers—Then Took Over His Section Mid-Shift
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Every now and then, you need the manager to step in. But what you generally never need is for them to take over.
In today’s story, we’ll meet a restaurant server who’s boss regularly interrupts conversations with customers and takes over their tables.
What’s worse is that the owner even criticizes the server in front of guests for things they never explained in the first place.
Then, during one shift, they suddenly decided to take over the server’s entire section and move them somewhere else.
The change confused the kitchen and annoyed customers who were already happy with their service.
Read on for the full story.
What do you do when a manager/owner micromanages and interferes with your table service?
I work at a small, independent restaurant owned and run by someone who did not have a whole lot of restaurant experience before they opened their own.
Typical I’m-the-boss-and-therefore-I’m-the-smartest-and-best behavior.
There has been a lot of staff turnover due to this person’s lack of both personal respect and professionalism.
Unfortunately, the manager doesn’t just stop by for a second, they take over the conversation.
My issue is that most nights, it’s simply that they approach tables and interfere while I’m providing service. If this were just a table-touch situation, it wouldn’t be an issue, but this person will intervene while I’m speaking to the table.
They’ll disrupt the conversation, often take over, and, many times, also make passive-aggressive comments about the job I’m doing. For example, pointing out if I, say, served a drink in a different glass than they would have preferred, without ever having actually explained which glass that is to me beforehand… and, yes, in front of the customers.
They explain that they feel that they “should” because either I “clearly don’t know what I’m doing” and/or they don’t think I’m “selling hard enough” and squeezing the largest possible check out of every table.
On this night, he thought the manager was joking.
So, I said most nights… but it sometimes goes further.
One night, this person decided—mid-shift, mid-service—to take over my section themselves. I had five tables seated at the time, and everyone was happy. This was not about my performance; it was solely because they changed their mind on where I would be most effective.
I thought at first they were joking when they demanded I stop and “give them a status report” on my tables.
The manager’s decision caused a lot of problems.
When I finally had a minute to stop actually serving, they then “took over for me” and moved me to another area of the floor entirely.
This not only caused confusion for the kitchen, but it annoyed several of the guests with whom I had started to develop a rapport and who were not happy about the abrupt change mid-meal. One table all but refused to engage with them; I was sent to go finish out their service since “they seemed to like me and not like them,” and they honestly couldn’t figure out why.
This micromanaging, hovering, and interrupting/intervening has only gotten worse. Has anyone else been in this kind of situation? Is this normal?
Wow! Wonder if the manager realizes they do this?
Let’s check out how the readers over at Reddit would respond.
This reader thinks they need to get out of there.
That’s a good question.
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This is what needs to happen.
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Yet another reader who thinks they need a new job.
Something needs to give! It’s time for the server to have a direct conversation with the owner before this gets any worse.
They should explain that the constant interruptions are confusing customers and making it harder to manage their tables.
And if the owner has specific expectations, those need to be explained before the shift instead of corrected in front of guests.
If nothing changes after that, it may be time to start looking for somewhere else to work.
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