He Had Already Been Asked Several Times To Donate To The School Fundraiser, But Eventually He Drew A Firm Line And Refused
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Fundraisers can create tension when a simple request starts feeling like repeated pressure.
One person received three donation messages from the same sister within a single day.
After they asked her to stop, the disagreement quickly became much more personal than the fundraiser itself.
Check out the full story below.
AITA for not donating money to my my nieces school fundraiser? My sister asked me 3 times for a donation in 1 day.
Yesterday morning, at 7 am, I received an email asking me to donate money to a school fundraiser for my niece.
This email caused me anxiety.
At 2 pm, in a family group text, this same sister asked again for donations.
Then at 7 pm, this same sister sent a personal text on my phone, asking for money again.
This man told her sister to stop asking him for money.
At this point, I finally replied with:
“Please stop asking me for money. (stop sign) Thanks. (happy face).”
She replied, “Don’t think you’re special. I send it to everyone.
And that’s what family does, but I’ll remember that. (thumbs up).”
He also told her that sending him three messages in the same day is tone-deaf.
I said, “I live solely off VA disability benefits. No one else asks me for money.
I had a $600 emergency dog bill. Should I have asked you for money? Those are my fur babies!
And no, I don’t want or need your money. I didn’t think I was special.
Sending me three messages in the same day is tone-deaf.
You caused me anxiety this morning. However, you don’t seem to care.”
She insulted him by saying he’s not normal and he’s being rude.
She replied, “That’s great, and I understand.
You can maybe be like a normal person and just not answer or not donate, as I understand if you can’t.
But I understand you’re not normal and so frickin’ rude.
And I only send these texts to family, but guess that will change after today.”
He told her she’s the one being rude for not even asking how he was doing.
I replied, “(Her name), you’re the one that’s rude. You don’t seem to understand that.
There was no ‘How are you?’ You don’t answer my texts or take my calls.
Instead, you sent me something asking for money. That’s rude.”
I have to add that I just saw her at a wedding, and she was talking about $5,000 extra she could have had in revenue.
If they had someone they trusted to run their third business.
They have two other businesses that they operate full-time. They’re well off.
He has autism, so he got upset when he read the “not normal” comment from his sister.
I don’t like it when someone feels entitled to that which I have. It has always rubbed me the wrong way.
I was recently diagnosed with High Functioning ASD (Autism).
So having her say that I’m not normal made me upset.
I feel as though I need healthier boundaries with my own family.
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And that she was gaslighting me into thinking I’m the problem.
She knows I have ASD, as other siblings also have it, too.
Let’s read the responses of other people to this story.
This person gives their honest opinion.
This user gives their personal thoughts.
You don’t have to be rude about it, says this one.
People are calling him out.
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Finally, this one describes him as overdramatic and miserable.
This family member felt pressured after receiving three donation requests despite living on disability benefits and facing recent emergency expenses.
The sister could have accepted the boundary without insults, while a calmer first response might have prevented the argument from growing.
That school fundraiser raised plenty of family tension.
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