Renter Lands A New Job But Won’t Let An Unemployed Friend Move In, And The Refusal Leaves Their Friendship On Shaky Ground
Canva
Helping a friend find work can create unexpected pressure.
This new job came with a brutal commute.
The easiest solution involved sharing someone else’s rented bedroom.
Comfort and lease rules complicated everything.
See why the friendship suddenly went quiet.
AITA for not letting my friend stay with me?
My best friend finally got a job after quite some time and wanted to stay with me in my rental room. They stayed over my house (I rent a room) for the face to face interview, in which they were offered a job.
The job needs daily commute as the company is newly setup and offered no hybrid options. For context, they were staying with their parents, have driving license but no car and never drove after getting their license.
The distance from their house to office is roughly 80km a day or around 2 hours of commute in public transportation. For them, driving a car isn’t an option since they’re still scared of driving.
Then, another problem presented itself.
They kept asking me for my opinion in which I told they that they should just accept the job offer considering their unemployment period.
But comes another problem.
They kept asking for a few times if they can rent with me considering I’m renting a master bedroom.
OP wasn’t a fan of this idea.
During their stay, I was not comfortable since I have not shared a bed with people for years (not even my siblings) and I love having my space to myself.
They stayed over for two nights and I was tired having to talk for the whole time and not having my time to myself.
Additionally, I have a rental contract where I cannot easily bring in people to stay over and I cannot bring extra person to stay long term as it is a breach of the contract.
I told them this and they insisted for a few times in which I ignored.
OP was honest.
When they asked again I told them I’m not used to having people sharing bed with me as I’m a light sleeper and when they were staying over I wasn’t able to sleep properly despite needing to go to work the next day.
They kinda ghosted me after I said that and we haven’t properly talk for the past few days.
AITA here?
Never Miss a StorySign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.
Most readers on Reddit agreed the OP made the right call, saying it’s unreasonable for a friend to pressure someone into breaking their lease or sacrificing their comfort.
This person pointed out that they could get evicted.
This person said as “friends,” there’s no respect.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who is upset that her neighbor’s aggressive dogs are ruining her enjoyment of her outdoor space.
And this person advises to be careful of the response.
This renter refused because sharing a bed felt uncomfortable and could violate the lease.
Their friend kept pushing, then stopped talking after receiving an honest explanation.
Enjoyed this story?
Sign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.
