Relationships might be hard, but if you’ve spent any time at all reading through posts on Reddit, you realize there are whole lot of people out there making them harder than they have to be.

OP and her boyfriend are in their 30s. He’s been working hard and having to study for an exam, so she decided to be kind and come over to his place to make dinner.

After she told him it was just about ready, he hollered back “what’s for dinner, b**ch?”

I was over my boyfriend’s apartment this weekend and I was cooking dinner because he was studying for exams. I made pasta and a chunky sauce with meatballs and veggies.

I told him dinner was ready and he goes “what’s for dinner tonight, B*TCH” … With like a lot of emphasis on the last word.

She saw red and made him see red by dumping the dinner on the ground and telling him in no uncertain terms that she was not going to be spoken to that way.

She left, got herself takeout, and went to a friend’s house.

I was fed up, I’d had a pretty rough day with work and I have some awfully bad associations with that word being used by other people in my life who were pretty abusive. So I was so irritated that I dropped the pot of pasta sauce I’d been carrying right on the ground and was like “Well nothing’s for dinner tonight now. And I better not hear you using that word again, it’s for the girls”

He was freaking out about how sauce had landed on his rug and he even said “you’re seriously acting like a bitch right now, I dunno what else to call it”

He kept texting her to explain it was a TikTok challenge (but never apologize) and in the morning was bugging her to come over and clean up the mess (that he’d left sit all night).

I just walked out and got takeout for myself and went to my friends house. She thought it was funny but my boyfriend was furious, he kept texting and calling and sending me voice memos trying to explain that saying “what’s for dinner tonight b*tch” was a TikTok trend…. And that he was just quoting something as a joke to put on tiktok.

I thought that was the shittiest excuse ever, it doesn’t matter if he saw it as a joke, or stole the “joke”, it was still disrespectful.

But it didn’t change the fact he thought that shit was funny, to demean me when I was trying to do him a favor. Like hell I came over when he was studying to make a home cooked dinner and he decides it’s time for jokes? So I put my phone on don’t disturb for the night and split a bottle of wine with my friend and her roommate.

The next morning he was sending me angry texts demanding I clean his rug because he was too busy with exams to do it. I was shocked he left it overnight, that’s disgusting. I texted him back saying.

“Yeah so that’s the btch tax honey 🙂 leave me alone till you’re ready to handle your own cooking and cleaning because this btch isn’t anymore. Also it’s vile you left that soaking in all night”

Did she overreact? Do his explanations make it better?

He called me and told me that he was okay with doing his own household work, but I did throw a full pot of sauce at the ground so that’s on me to clean up.

I told him “yeah no I’m not comfortable doing chores for you if you see me like your b*tch”

He told me he didn’t and it was just a “trend” and I got pissed off he was playing that “TikTok trend” BS excuse again and I told him “Well I’m starting a trend called ‘saucing’ where as a little joke people throw pasta sauce around! You can’t be mad because it’s just a little trend, a little jokey joke, just a little prank bro!”

He got really pissed off and hung up on me and now I’m seriously wondering if this dumb fucking tiktok joke is gonna be the end of things between us

AITA for how I reacted when my boyfriend asked me “what’s for dinner tonight, b*tch”

Let’s hear what Reddit has to say!

The top commenter totally loved OP’s pluck.

This person came into the situation thinking that OP probably overreacted, but ended up siding with OP.

They can’t believe the boyfriend didn’t apologize right away, nevermind ever.

She has the energy we all need when we’re dating – the energy to call out all of the bs.

This comment points out that the trend is pretty disrespectful to begin with.

Y’all, this guy doesn’t deserve to have a girlfriend who cooks dinner for him.

You can totally @me in the comments, but I said what I said.