A pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but it can also be one of the most stressful times in a woman (and her partner’s) life!

And because a lot of potential complications, it’s not uncommon for the couple to keep the pregnancy to themselves until a certain amount of time has passed.

That way if anything tragic happens the Mother can process in peace.

But apparently, this user’s sister-in-law didn’t get that memo.

Check it out!

AITA for defending myself against my SIL who was upset we waited to tell her we were expecting and waited until our son was born to announce his name?

My husband (42m) and I (41f) tried to have children for 13 years before we accepted that we were never going to have it happen for us.

We spent a lot of time hoping and trying different things and nothing worked.

I was 35 when we decided to come to terms with our life as a childfree couple.

We sold our old house, downsizing considerably and we started changing how we lived our life.

We had devoted so much time to preparing to be a family with children that we didn’t really know what we wanted now that it was no longer in the cards.

But right when she and her husband were ready to give up trying, something unexpected happened!

Then, just after my 40th birthday, I discovered I was pregnant.

It was a huge shock and what was even more surprising was the baby was healthy when I went for my first scan.

But I was afraid, we both were, so we waited until I was 18 weeks to tell people.

I didn’t really show until I was about 21 weeks so that made it easy to hide.

We announced and people were thrilled for us.

All our siblings already had children who were 9 and older, so this was the first baby born into the family in a while.

We got asked about names and whether we would have a name reveal or baby shower with a name reveal.

We decided to keep the name to ourselves until he was born. Something special and a surprise for people.

Despite the overwhelming support from the family, there was one member who just couldn’t handle the suspense!

Most people understood but it came to our attention recently that one of my husband’s sisters (SIL) was not happy about any of this.

She didn’t like that we kept the pregnancy to ourselves for a while and disliked it even more that we didn’t share the name.

She brought this up at Christmas for the first time and surprised the whole family.

Then she brought it up to my husband on three separate occasions after her initial mention, and then she brought it up to me 4 days ago.

SIL even said that they should have asked for approval for their baby’s name!

 She told me we left our families out when this was just as big a deal for them as it was for us.

She said everyone had wanted us to have a baby too and how could we cut them out like that.

She also claimed we could have gotten feedback and blessings from family members on his name, which is Hawthorn for people who will ask.

She wasn’t just going to sit there and take the abuse though, and gave her sister in law a piece of her mind!

I told her that the news came as such a surprise and we worried and wanted to come to terms and get to what we felt was a safe point before telling people.

She argued we needed our family if something went wrong. Then she said there was still no excuse for the name.

That the name was kind of odd and she would have liked us to pick a more classic name, like James or George.

I told her I understood that everyone had their own taste.

But we were getting one chance to name a child and one chance to experience parenthood and we wanted to make the most of it.

Then if SIL wasn’t being ignorant enough, she started getting mad at her for defending herself!

I said we never did it to hurt anyone but we wanted to do what felt right to us.

She told me that was what my husband said and it was lame, especially to defend myself that way when it was something that the whole family are experiencing.

She told me we just wanted to leave everyone out and we should have known better.

AITA?

Reddit was 100% on the poster’s side, especially after their long history of trying to have a child!

And this user said that at the end of the day, the baby was theirs, not the sister-in-law’s!

Many said that normal, healthily adjusted people wouldn’t care when the baby’s name was revealed!

And finally, this user suggested bringing in her husband’s family, and letting them know about the SIL’s behavior.

Side note, how cool of a name is Hawthorn?

I mean, maybe it’s not for everyone, but that shouldn’t matter.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.