July 1, 2024 at 8:36 pm

She Always Helped Her Sister, But When The Favor Wasn’t Returned She Decided To Skip Her Wedding

by Melissa Triebwasser

Source: Reddit/AITA/Unsplash/Obie Fernandez

Family drama can be the absolute worst, and can be heightened around big events.

This story from Reddit illustrates what happens when one sibling keeps the receipts and shows her cards on the other’s big day.

AITA for refusing to attend my sister’s wedding because she wouldn’t give me any money & called me a burden?

I have a sister, Sandra. Years ago, she’d lost her job & was homeless.

I was only more than happy to help. I gave her a lot of money & asked her to live in my house.

Rent-free, free food, and she could live there permanently.

I also gave her additional money every month.

The author has been helpful to her sister whenever she needed it.

She got a good job later & moved out, although I’d said she could continue staying there permanently.

A year after that, I fell into trouble. I was homeless.

I asked Sandra for help.

Not only did she say I am unwelcome to stay at her house as it would be a burden, she also refused to give me any money.

Sandra wasn’t willing to help her sister despite needing help herself, and her sister would not forget it.

I now have a good job as earlier.

Sandra’s now having her wedding & invited me. All of us congratulated her, except me.

I said I am not attending.

I can’t say I blame the author!

She got mad. I said that I do not want to be with anyone who’s as ungrateful.

She began to yell at me, and others agree with her in that I am in the wrong since I’d said that she does not have to return the money when I’d helped her.


Let’s have the commenters at Reddit weigh in on the debate!

The overriding judgement is that the author is very obviously not in the wrong, and her relationship with her sister just isn’t worth the trouble.

Source: Reddit/AITA

It’s not just payback, it’s about taking care of your family.

Source: Reddit/AITA

One comment said to flat out skip the wedding.

Source: Reddit/AITA

Some commenters had creative ideas for the wedding “gift”.

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And the burn to end all burns.

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Her sister didn’t step up, so she will be stepping out of the wedding invitation.

Seems fair to me!

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.