August 20, 2024 at 7:51 pm

She’s 35 Weeks Pregnant And Wants Her Mother-In-Law To Stay At A Hotel, But Her Family Says She’s Being Terribly Rude

by Diana Whelan

Source: Reddit/AITA/Pexels/Leah Newhouse

When you’re nine months pregnant and feeling like a beached whale, the last thing you want is house guests.

This mom-to-be’s mother-in-law asked to stay at her place for the baby shower, but after some consideration, she kindly requested her to stay at a hotel instead.

Now, there’s family drama brewing, and everyone has an opinion!

Read on for the story…

AITA for asking my MIL to stay in a hotel when she comes to visit next month?

I (27F) am currently pregnant with my husband (29M) and my’s first child.

Both of our parents live in different states than we do, so my mom is flying in to host a baby shower at my grandparent’s house who live nearby.

My MIL wants to fly in for the baby shower too. She, however, does not have any family in the area.

My husband and I live in a small townhome with 3 bedrooms (our room, his office where he works from home, and a nursery).

Not ideal.

The living space is relatively small, and all we have for guest accommodations would be a blow up bed in the nursery, which would take up the entire room.

I also have not been having the easiest pregnancy, and having been dealing with a lot of fatigue and other unpleasant symptoms during this third trimester, and will be 35 weeks along when it is my baby shower.

My MIL texted me that she was excited to come to the baby shower, and asked “Can I stay at your place? I can get a hotel if it is an inconvenience and makes things easier.”

PERFECT.

I responded saying “Considering the space of our house and how I haven’t been feeling great this pregnancy, a hotel might be best, if that is okay with you!”

I never heard back after that (it’s been 2 weeks), and I thought everything was okay until my sister-in-law called me last night.

She said that MIL was upset that my husband and I weren’t letting her stay with us and forcing her to pay for a hotel.

Oh, come on.

I thought it would be okay to ask her to stay in a hotel since she offered it up in her first text, and I am really not feeling up to hosting and entertaining.

Am I the jerk in this situation?

I still have not heard anything from MIL herself since our initial texts.

Wow, talk about a sticky family situation!

Here’s what the Redditors had to say about it.

This person has a lot of questions, but they all lead to MIL being the AH.

Source: Reddit/AITA

This person is calling MIL out, rightfully so.

Source: Reddit/AITA

And this person agrees: she is definitely NOT the AH here.

Source: Reddit/AITA

And there you have it.

When it comes to pregnancy cravings, it’s simple: peace, quiet, and maybe a little space from the in-laws.

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Diana Whelan | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Diana Whelan is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in family dynamics, viral internet culture, and interpersonal relationships. Drawing on her extensive professional background as a senior copywriter in the digital marketing space, Diana excels at transforming community-driven conversations and trending social media debates into relatable, highly engaging narratives.

Rather than simply aggregating online drama, Diana brings a balanced, humorous, and empathetic editorial voice to everyday dilemmas and parenting moments. She has a keen eye for finding the human element at the center of complex relationship conflicts and viral social trends.

Outside of writing, Diana is usually spending time with her husband and two kids, planning elaborate themed parties, or chasing down new family adventures. Fueled by a little too much caffeine and a love for a well-placed pun, she can often be found unwinding with a glass of wine and her very patient golden retriever.

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