Rules are rules—until they’re suddenly not.

This mom had her husband seeing red when she dared to defy his strict no-snack policy.

With three growing boys, Mom decided a little post-dinner fruit wasn’t a crime – but Dad disagreed.

Read on for the story.

AITA for not allowing my kids a snack after dinner

I (28f) and my husband (32m) have 3 beautiful boys together aged 8, 7, and 4. Almost every evening we sit together at the table as a family and enjoy dinner.

We have a strict rule that if you don’t finish your plate, you don’t get a snack later or dessert.

If our kids are full before their plate is gone, we let them leave the table but save their plate in case they ask for a snack later.

Smart!

This really hasn’t been an issue until recently and specifically tonight where my husband and I got into a fight in front of the kids disagreeing if they could have a snack or not after dinner.

For background purposes, financially I would say we are equal when it comes to income.

My husband makes twice as much as me and pays all of the bills except the mortgage.

I pay the mortgage, our youngest’s daycare, and I buy our groceries and any household necessities.

We don’t fight about finances.

Recently my husband has been not allowing the kids to have a snack after dinner even if they finish their plate.

A rule change is never good.

I’ve been arguing back saying “they finished, they’re allowed a snack.”

Tonight our 7 year old asked for a snack after dinner and my husband flipped saying “don’t ask again you’re not having any more food tonight.”

I told him he was being unreasonable and snuck my 7 year old down to have a clementine and a banana.

My husband thinks I’m the ******* for undermining his decision that the kids won’t have snacks but I think he’s being unreasonable.

If we have the means to feed our kids dinner and snacks after why wouldn’t we?

So am I the *******?

Redditors are chomping at the bit to see who’s really at fault here.

Spoiler alert: It’s both parents. Everyone stinks.

This person can’t even fathom these wacky rules.

This person thinks it could very well be the cooking.

And this person is pretty certain this is going to damage the kids.

Looks like both Mom and Dad are in the snack-time time-out corner.

They should get with the times!

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