Life is so much better when you get along with your roommates.

In today’s story, one roommate gets along really well with her other roommate, that is, until the roommate’s little sister moves in.

Let’s see why things aren’t going so well with the little sister…

AITA for not letting my flatmates autistic sister live with us?

So I live with a F 21 called ‘Holly’ (not her real name) who I met at university and after finishing moved in together. I’m also F 21.

Holly has little sister ‘Emily’ F 18 who’s autistic, and I would like you to keep in mind for this situation that I am also autistic.

Recently, at Holly’s work there has been a part time one month contract going, so after giving her sister the job she asked me if Emily could move in for a month.

I felt a bit uncomfortable with it being a month, only because our flat is TINY and she wouldn’t be contributing to rent, bills etc.

But since Holly had already given her the job I felt a bit backed into the corner and said yes.

Having Emily move in hasn’t been going well.

So she’s moved in and it’s the most awkward situation I’ve ever been in.

She won’t speak to me at all apart from one word every now and then.

As I’m also autistic I understand autism pretty well and after having conversations with Holly, I would like to clarify her sister isn’t selective mute, she just doesn’t want to talk to me.

I understand that to an extent, as after work I also like to have a chill in my room with little social interaction. But this is down to the point she won’t say hello to me.

She has tried everything to get along better with Emily.

I’ve tried everything, giving her space, inviting her to movie nights, or asking about her special interests and about her hobbies.

She just looks at me with the white guy smile, rolls her eyes and gives me a one word answer.

It’s PAINFUL.

I feel a but unsure of what to do, so I’ve left her to interact with me when she chooses. Everything is very awkward.

Holly wants Emily to move in permanently.

Me and Holly were planning to live together next year too, as of yesterday this might have changed.

She pulled me aside and said her sister is really liking the city and wants to move in with us next year.

This wouldn’t be as bad as she would be paying her own rent but I’m just not sure I could live with her.

There is no level of friendship and i just think it would be uncomfortable for everyone involved.

She told Holly she’d rather find her own place than live with Emily next year.

So i politely said to Holly, “No I’m really sorry, I’m not sure that would be a good choice for any of us involved as me and Emily don’t really speak and I think it would be awkward. But if you want to live with Emily I understand and it’s not a problem. I’ll sort my situation and live elsewhere.”

I’m not a confrontational person and get quite scared, but I try and stick to facts as much as possible without upsetting anyone.

She wants to be friends with her roommates.

Holly then turned around and called me an ableist and I just don’t want to live with her sister because she’s autistic.

To be honest, I could not care less that she’s autistic as I’m autistic myself (which she knows) and most my friends are autistic.

What I care about is being friends with the people I live with, and me and Emily literally don’t speak.

She is wondering if she was wrong.

Holly is very upset with my answer and so am I with the situation.

AITA for not letting her sister live with us?

It sounds like Holly doesn’t want to have to choose.

Let’s see how Reddit responded…

This reader thinks Holly is to blame.

Another reader also thinks Holly is the one who is wrong.

This person encourages her to stand her ground.

Another person thinks Holly is being unreasonable.

This reader thinks she has good reasons for not wanting to live with Emily.

She has every right to move out.

Her roommate can’t stop her, but hopefully it doesn’t end their friendship.

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