Annoying Mother In Law Wanted To Stay With This Newly-Wedded Couple, But When Her Daughter-In-Law Said No She Showed Up Anyway
by Sarrah Murtaza
In-laws can be a handful.
Even if you like yours, there’s a good chance you’d rather have more space than would be allowed if they were staying with you for an extended period of time.
After this young woman expressed concerns, her mother-in-law ignored them and showed up anyway.
Find out what happened when she told her mother-in-law she couldn’t stay.
AITA for not allowing my MIL to stay at our place
We (26 F and 26 M) are a couple of newlyweds just trying to figure out life.
We are doing good and are in love.
We got married less than six months ago and my parents paid for our dream wedding and are still supporting us.
She was expecting money from the MIL…
My MIL constantly told us she would give us money but she never did.
I never asked for it and honestly didn’t need it thanks to my parents… but it was annoying hearing the same story where she promised something we all knew she could never give us….
She was the only one giving us a hard time while planning the wedding because she wanted to invite a ton of people we barely knew.
She didn’t put a penny out of her pocket but still wanted to have a lot of people in our wedding which made me angry but I never told her or my husband just to be respectful.
She thinks the MIL detested the marriage.
She didn’t seem happy the day we got married, not sure why since we always had a good relationship and she ended up inviting a lot of people…
I was always respectful and even asked her opinion in some wedding stuff so she could feel she was part of it.
Long story short, she lives in another state and every time she came to TX she stayed with her brother (he is single).
This is where it gets interesting…
Yesterday we picked her up from the airport and she told my husband she was expecting to stay with us.
I talked about this before telling him I don’t feel comfortable with family members staying over at our house.
They could visit and everything but not sleep in our home and that it was one of my boundaries, which he agreed.
She’s playing the victim, saying her brother and her got into an argument a few months ago and they don’t talk anymore so now every time she comes over she needs to stay with us.
When we dropped her at her brother’s he was nice and kind to her, he always said she could stay with him and that he could also help her with any errands she needed to…
The MIL never informed them!
She never told my husband about the situation and never asked him or me if it was ok that she could stay with us.
I get she’s my husband’s mom but I feel like she needs to understand that we do have boundaries and she can’t come and expect we accommodate our schedules around her.
I don’t feel comfortable with anyone else staying because I wfh and I clean, cook and do chores at my own pace so I don’t want to have someone just saying what I need to do.
She has a lot of issues with the MIL.
I’m not happy that she planned her whole trip expecting we accommodate her without even asking us…
We always thought she would stay with her brother as she always did before!
She was never clingy to my husband when he was single, not sure why she wants to play that role now…
Spoiler, she stayed with her brother but I feel my husband is resentful now since he thinks I don’t want her mother just because I’m mean…
AITA?
Who would have thought a newly married couple would start facing issues so early in the marriage?
This user thinks it is absurd to get money from parents at an adult age.
This person suggests talking it through with the husband.
This user thinks it is unreasonable to show up unannounced.
This user blames the girl a little for the issue escalating.
This user knows what the mother is doing!
Those are a lot of divided opinions!
These ladies really need to talk this problem through.
If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.
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