Weddings are meant to be joyful celebrations, but they can sometimes test the patience of already-fragile relationships.

When a last-minute invitation turned into a whirlwind of miscommunication and stress, a woman found herself questioning not just her place at the wedding, but in her relationship too.

Read on for all the details.

AITAH for leaving my boyfriend at a wedding I wasn’t originally invited to?

My boyfriend is a groomsmen at a wedding this weekend.

He told me I was invited, so I was excited to finally meet his friends, but for some reason I had this gut feeling I wasn’t.

I’m not sure why – maybe his responses and reactions when I asked, but I asked him to double check to see if I was actually invited and he refused until 1 week prior to the wedding.

Unfortunately, her intuition was spot-on.

Come to find out that I indeed was NOT invited, but they were going to figure it out.

At that point, I was sincerely okay not going as I understand budgets for weddings and it was the WEEK prior!!!

They figured out my spot and I was going to take someone’s spot who could no longer go.

This didn’t make her feel good, but she still tried to make the best of it.

I was uncomfortable and embarrassed, but I didn’t want to say no because they really put in the effort.

Well…. Today is the rehearsal dinner and I was making the hour drive and needed to get ready at the AirBnb.

I never got the address after asking numerous times until 1:30 and when I arrived, my boyfriend told me I had 15 minutes to get ready.

She had finally had enough.

I was furious at the lack of respect yet again and he said “suck it up and get over it and go inside and get ready.”

I asked who’s inside and he said a bunch of his friends (I haven’t met yet).

She leaves in a fury, and begins questioning their relationship overall.

I was in tears due to the lack of empathy and compassion.

I ended up leaving because I didn’t feel welcomed in the first place and definitely not welcomed after that.

AITAH for leaving?

The boyfriend had several opportunities to make things right, but he refused every time.

What did Reddit think?

While it may be difficult to accept, his lack of communication is actually communicating quite a lot.

She’s absolutely right to trust her instincts.

When someone shows you who they really are, you have to pay attention.

This whole relationship might be a lost cause.

Ultimately, she decided that forcing herself into a situation where she wasn’t truly welcome wasn’t worth the discomfort.

She doesn’t deserve to feel like an afterthought.

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