His Late Brother Wrote Him A Goodbye Letter, But Neglected To Do The Same For For His Stepsiblings. So His Dad Wanted To Modify The Letter To Include Them All.
by Sarrah Murtaza
Some family dynamics can get tricky. Especially when attention and love gets divided.
This boy was bitter towards his father because of the father’s biases towards his other wife and family.
Find out h0w things got worse.
AITA for not letting my dad copy my brother’s letter to me so my half siblings can think he wrote to them too?
My older brother Jamie died 7 months ago. He was 20.
Before he died he wrote a letter for me and another for our dad.
His brother had different messages for everyone.
His letter to me was him apologizing for leaving, saying he loved me, he wanted me to have a good life and things like that.
Dad’s letter was different.
Dad’s message was more bitter…
Jamie told dad we always knew he cheated on our mom, that he was disgusted to be his son, that he didn’t tell him he was sick because he didn’t want dad to fake grieve him like he did our mom.
He didn’t want dad’s tears or anguish, that he felt like dad not getting the chance to say goodbye was justice for his affair, his affair child, and for the hell he put the two of us through when we were so young and losing our mom.
I only know the content of dad’s letter because he told me about it and wanted to know if I felt similar in any way and I told him I did.
My dad had other kids with his wife, the affair partner (or one of them?). My half sisters are 11 and 10 and my half brother is 8.
They weren’t close to their half-siblings.
I’m 17M because I know I didn’t mention that. And the timeline was mom was sick for like a year. She died when I was 5 and my brother was 8.
Dad was a dad again only 6 months after she died and his wife was living with us before that point.
Dad never explained it to us. He relied on us being young, and boys, and not knowing enough about pregnancy to realize.
He fell into his brother’s footsteps.
My brother always kept his distance from our half siblings and he wanted no part of being their brother. I feel similarly but I’ll try to be nice because we live in the same house.
But now that Jamie’s gone I feel like I lost my only sibling and I don’t love or care about my half siblings or think of them as real siblings.
Which might be why I’m resisting here but anyway.
Jamie wanted nothing to do with his half-siblings.
Dad knows I have a letter from Jamie. But Jamie didn’t write anything to our half siblings.
So dad wants to make a copy of the letter and make it look like it’s to all of us (so edit it).
He said ever since the girls found out I got one, they’ve been upset and they grieve for Jamie too and they don’t deserve the weight of being unloved by their brother and knowing they’ll never get to have a kind message from Jamie.
He said Jamie never said I love you to them or hugged them or gave them any of his heart. And it’s not their fault.
His father had the most unreasonable demand!
But some of the pain can be eased if they think he thought of them.
He said we’ll just say I was being possessive of the letter and it was never just mine.
I didn’t agree to share the letter and I told dad I don’t want him to edit it.
He got really mad at me and asked me how I can have such a small age gap between me and my half sister, how I could live with them for 11 years and not want to save them from this.
He’s wondering if he’s the bad guy.
He asked me if I had become such a monster.
AITA?
Why can’t this father simply accept that his sons aren’t close to the other family?
Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this story.
That’s right! This user knows that dad isn’t the most honest man.
This user suggests backing up the letter because chances are, it will get stolen.
This user thinks from the dad’s perspective!
This user picks up on the red flags!
This user knows the dad is the problem.
Commenters suggest this kid to save his brother’s letter from the father!
If he can lie, he can steal!
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