December 3, 2024 at 2:21 pm

A Family Member Hid His Documents And Demanded He Send Out Resumes Even Though He Already Has A Work-From-Home Job, So He Did Exactly What She Suggested And Got Another Job

by Mila Cardozo

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It’s extremely difficult dealing with narcissistic family members.

A 22-year-old man shares that he is the primary caretaker of a narcissistic family member with dementia, which sounds extremely challenging.

But when she hid his documents and told him to hand out resumes even though he already has a job, he decided things needed to change.

Let’s read the story.

Want to force me to give out resumes when I already have a job? Fine then.

I (a 22-year-old male) am the primary caretaker of one of my family members.

Among other chronic illnesses, she is a diagnosed narcissist with early dementia.

As per my family’s request, I moved in with her and took an online job as a trilingual translator to ensure I would be there 24/7 should she have an emergency.

Somehow, she has interpreted my constant presence as me not having a job, despite me explaining several times that I did, in fact, work.

He was trying to deal with the situation the best he could.

She went to the point of stealing my ID and debit card, saying she would not be giving them back to me unless I gave out resumes where she told me to.

I searched the whole house and couldn’t find them so I was forced to comply.

I have a huge amount of respect for people who work in these fields, but I am not taking a job as a cleaner or a cashier when I work in my field of choice.

That’s when I noticed all the places she was forcing me to send out resumes to were requesting a cover letter.

She wouldn’t take ‘no’ for an answer, so he did what he had to do.

This is where the malicious compliance takes place.

I took an already-written cover letter and changed some details so it’d be like I wrote it myself.

I made her read it and approve it as per her request, then added the following sentences in my second paragraph:

“If this letter arrives on your desk, please know that this application has been sent without my consent. Already having an online full-time job, please do not take it into consideration.”

This is very bold of him, but he had yet another good idea.

As you can imagine, I didn’t get called back much.

Only one place sent me an email, and once I explained the situation their HR team wished me luck with my situation and told me this motivated them to read cover letters more carefully.

At the same time, I contacted my boss.

I knew they sometimes open in-office positions and my boss is one of the nicest people I know, so I contacted her and asked if there was any way I could get the next in-office position, telling her why exactly I was asking that.

This was a very smart move.

I’ve been working there for 6 months and she never had any complaints about me, so she sent me a permanent contract starting in January 2025 for their office.

It’s overseas, in a country where I’m legally allowed to work without a work visa.

I won’t specify which country, since I have the intention of disappearing there.

My flight is already booked, and only my best friend knows what is going on. I have a letter already written out where I tell my family to not warn the authorities.

He went all in.

As soon as I land my bank account will be closed and my phone subscription cancelled, and after 5 years, I will ask to become a citizen in that country and won’t renew the paperwork necessary to prove my citizenship in my birth country.

I have 3 younger siblings, all of them are still in middle school.

They have their own email addresses that our parents don’t know about, so I will send them an email telling them this is not their fault and that they’re the only ones in the family who are allowed to contact me.

That’s very thoughtful of him.

I’ll also add that I will answer any questions they have once they turn 18.

I’m excited.

I’m excited to start a new life, I’m excited to get out of this family that has been the source of most of my problems for my whole life.

I’m excited to finally escape toxic people in a toxic environment that was destroying my mental health. Only two months left and after 22 long years of waiting I’ll finally be free.

All of this was because my last straw was forcing me to send out job applications.

He was antifragile and took this as an opportunity for change. Awesome!

Let’s see what Redditors have to say about this.

A reader shares their thoughts.

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This commenter is a bit puzzled.

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Another reader chimes in.

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Someone wishes him well.

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More good wishes.

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Someone offers some advice.

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I agree.

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He stood up for himself in an ingenious way.

It was high time he did something.

If you liked that story, check out this post about a group of employees who got together and why working from home was a good financial decision.