Getting married is a big deal, and planning a wedding can be stressful.

Partly because a lot of people who want to come to the wedding make planning it more complicated.

In today’s story, a woman’s fiance’s ex-wife is upset that she wasn’t invited to the wedding, but the bride-to-be has multiple reasons why she doesn’t want her there.

Let’s see why the bride-to-be thinks it’s best that the ex-wife doesn’t attend…

AITA for not inviting my partner’s ex to our wedding, even though they have a child together?

My fiancé (34M) and I (31F) are getting married soon and we’re finalising the guest list.

He has a daughter from his previous relationship and we’re trying to include her as much as possible.

The issue is his ex (her mother) who expects to be invited to the wedding.

For context, me and my finance have the daughter for most of the time, her mother gets her maybe a weekend a month.

She’s a nice enough person but she has a lot of problems with drinking too heavily, and then becomes a less nice person.

She doesn’t want the ex-wife at the wedding.

While I understand that she’s an important figure in our daughter’s life, I’m just not comfortable with the idea of her there at the wedding.

From what I know, she’s not made steps towards stopping with her drinking problem and I can only imagine what kind of choices she would make at the wedding and I don’t want the stress of that on the day.

She and I have had a pretty good relationship for the sake of the daughter, but there has been some tension and disagreements in the past.

If the ex-wife is at the wedding, it could cause drama.

For instance, when she came over drunk before and said that she wanted to see her daughter more, that I’m pretending to be her mother etc.

I can understand where it’s coming from and she is nice, but she ultimately has problems that she’s not willing to confront at the moment.

I’ve tried to talk to her about it before, more for the daughter’s sake but she just brushes it off even when she’s sober.

I want our wedding day to be about me and fiancé, rather than any potential awkwardness or drama.

She wonders if she should invite the ex-wife to the wedding anyway.

My fiancé wants to keep things amicable for our daughter (and he also has a feeling that his ex is already annoyed that we’re getting married; and this only got worse when she realised she wasn’t invited) but understands my feelings on it.

His ex has already expressed her displeasure about not being invited and I’m worried that it will create more issues.

However, I do want our wedding day to be focused on celebrating us without the stress of anything she might do.

AITA?

I think it would be kind of weird to go to the wedding of your ex-husband.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story…

The ex doesn’t need to be at the wedding.

She will not regret not inviting the ex.

Not wanting her there is the only reason she needs not to invite her.

Nobody invites an ex to a wedding.

Why would the ex even want to go to the wedding?

It would be weird to invite an ex to a wedding.

Even weirder that she wants to be there.

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