Living arrangements are increasingly chaotic these days, and a lot of people find themselves unsure of their responsibilities in the whole mess.

When you’re happy with the way things are, though, sometimes it can be tough to open up your home to someone you know is going to change it.

Check out this story and find out whether or not this woman allows a sibling’s money needs to come between her and her boyfriend.

AITA for not paying my boyfriend’s household bills when his siblings ask me for it?

I (F25) have been dating my boyfriend (M27) for 11 months.

He lives with his siblings, and I visit regularly, but I don’t stay there full-time nor sleep over every night.

Adult siblings living together is already a little unusual, but hey, whatever works.

Recently, his siblings asked me to help pay part of his share of the household bills, like electricity and water, because I’ve been there often.

I told them I’m not comfortable contributing since I’m just visiting and don’t live there.

I don’t use the utilities the way they do, and my boyfriend hasn’t asked me to pay anything.

Now, they’re upset with me, and things are awkward.

How often is too often before you’re a part of the home?

Here’s the thing — my boyfriend recently lost his job and has been going through a tough time.

He’s always been the one supporting all the household expenses, including food and utilities, for everyone.

I’ve been helping cover his food and other personal needs during this time.

I feel like his siblings, especially since they’re all working, should step up and help him with the household expenses now that he’s struggling.

They’ve benefited from his sacrifices for years, and I just think it’s time for them to return the favor.

Am I wrong for refusing to pay and expecting them to help him now?

Can the internet solve this sibling squabble?

A lot of people question the stability of the system as it’s been so far:

But also – how often is OFTEN?

You’ve got a place of your own, dontcha?

Supporting your partner and supporting your partner’s family are two different animals:

Be careful the dynamics you set up early on:

Don’t wear out your welcome, but don’t be a doormat either.

He needs to be an adult and support himself.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.