Taking care of a sick parent is one of the hardest things a person can do — even more so when that parent has hurt you in the past.

When one young caregiver finds herself drowning in responsibility, she’s torn between guilt and the reality of what she can handle.

Read on for the full story.

AITA For putting my mother in a nursing home

I (22 female) am the only child between my mom and dad.

They were never married and split up when I was a kid. They have a friendly relationship now but nothing more.

But her relationship with her mother was much more storied.

My mom and I have always had a complicated relationship, which only got worse when I turned 17.

She started to get very religious and tried to push her beliefs not only onto me but also onto her friends and family.

It was like a switch flipped in her head—she started calling and texting me, saying that I’ll be punished if I don’t obey the rules and regulations in her household.

This effectively ended their relationship for a long time.

Long story short, we got into a fight, and I started living with my dad.

My mother has struggled with a plethora of medical issues since I was about 10.

It was one thing after another.

She had a heart attack, a stroke, and has suffered from fibromyalgia in her legs.

She was also diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar depression.

Last year, she was diagnosed with diabetes.

Now she finds herself in a caregiver role.

Now, my aunt and I are taking care of her.

It’s been really hard with working and driving back and forth to her house.

But they’re quickly reaching their limits.

My aunt also has her own medical issues and can’t do as much as I can.

We are both getting to a point where it’s just too much.

I don’t know what to do anymore.

Both the emotional and financial considerations are beginning to pile up.

It’s hard finding help, considering she doesn’t have much money, and I am literally working paycheck to paycheck.

I know how awful nursing homes can be, but she needs 24-hour care, and I don’t know how long I can keep doing this.

It’s been almost two years.

AITA?

When love and duty collide, there’s no easy road to follow,

Redditors weigh in with their thoughts.

It’s not at all an easy choice, but to this commenter, the path forward is clear.

This user is optimistic she can find a good place to put her mom.

Navigating elder care can be an extremely long process, so it’s better to start sooner than later.

It’s important to care about others, but it’s also vital to care for yourself.

Sometimes the hardest choice is also the right choice.

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