Doing little favors for your significant other is a great way to make them feel loved and strengthen your relationship, but only if they appreciate your efforts.

What would you do if you made your girlfriend coffee every morning, but she always complained that it wasn’t right no matter how hard you tried?

That is the situation that the boyfriend in this story is in, so he got upset that she is micromanaging him and he doesn’t want to even try anymore.

Check it out.

AITA for telling my girlfriend I wouldn’t make her coffee anymore unless she stops micromanaging me?

So, for context, I (24M) and my girlfriend (23F) have been together for about two years, living together for roughly six months.

Normally, we have a good routine: I wake up first, make coffee, and she wakes up to a nice hot cup.

Recently, though, she started getting really particular about how she wants it done.

She insists on using this super specific method: measure the grounds to the exact gram, pre-warm the mug in the microwave for 30 seconds, add the milk at a certain temperature, and on and on.

At first, I tried to oblige because hey, if she loves coffee that much, I want to make it nice for her.

Wow, she is very picky about her coffee.

But it got to a point where every time I handed her a cup, she’d grill me: “Did you weigh the grounds first?” “Did you warm the mug?” “Is this whole milk or 2%?”

If anything was off, even by a tiny bit, she’d sigh and say it wasn’t as good as “the right way.”

One morning, she literally took the mug from me, dumped it down the sink, and started the process herself—while ranting that I never do it the right way.

I certainly can’t blame him for feeling this way.

I got frustrated and told her, “If you’re going to be this picky, just make your own coffee. I’m done making something only to be told how it’s ‘wrong’ every time.”

She got upset and said I was overreacting, that she just wants her coffee a certain way, and that I should respect her preferences.

I argued that I was respecting her preference—I just didn’t appreciate the constant criticism or micromanaging.

She accused me of being lazy and unaccommodating.

He has nothing to feel guilty about.

Now, I’m feeling guilty because I do want her to enjoy her morning coffee, but I’m also tired of feeling like I’m a barista under constant scrutiny.

Am I wrong for telling her she can just handle it herself until she stops micromanaging me?

Or should I just suck it up and follow her super detailed instructions?

AITA?

He is doing her a favor that she doesn’t appreciate, so he is under no obligation to continue trying to please her.

Let her make her own coffee.

Read on to see what the people in the comments say about this.

This woman is the bane of all baristas.

This commenter makes a great point.

This is a great piece of advice.

Here is someone who thinks there are bigger issues.

This person thinks the girlfriend is out of line.

She needs to be her own barista.

Or just say thank you like a normal person.

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