People who say that words don’t hurt others are full of it.

This is especially true when it comes to sensitive topics…and this guy had something to be very sensitive about: his wife who passed away.

Can you blame him for how he reacted when his sister said something highly inappropriate?

Read his story below and YOU be the judge.

AITA for refusing to go to my sister’s wedding after she disrespected my late wife and demanded a family heirloom?

“I (32F) lost my wife, Lily (30F), two years ago in a ***** driving accident.

Losing her shattered my world, and I’ve been trying to pick up the pieces ever since.

My family, though, has never really understood what I’ve been going through.

To be honest, they never fully accepted my marriage to Lily in the first place.

There’s some history here…

When we got married, my grandma gave me a necklace that’s been passed down in our family for generations.

It’s a tradition that the women in the family get it when they marry, and it meant the world to me because it felt like one of the few times my marriage to Lily was actually recognized as real.

Since Lily passed, my sister Emma (28F), who’s always been the golden child, has been eyeing the necklace.

She’s getting married soon and recently mentioned how, now that I’m “not really married anymore,” I should pass it on to her.

This was way over the line…

That was hard to hear, but what really broke me happened last week at a family dinner.

We were talking about her wedding, and she made a joke about setting me up with one of her fiancé Luke’s (35M) friends.

I felt uncomfortable, but tried to brush it off.

Then she said, “At least Lily won’t be there to haunt you if you hook up with someone!”

I couldn’t believe she said that.

I didn’t even know how to react—I just sat there.

Later, when I told her how hurtful it was, she rolled her eyes and told me I was being “too sensitive,” that I needed to stop being “so depressing” and “lighten up.”

Then she brought up one of her bridesmaids, Sarah, who had a crush on me even when Lily was alive, and suggested I “have some fun” with her at the wedding.

As if my wife hadn’t mattered.

Yikes…

I told her there was no way I could come to the wedding if that’s how she feels about Lily and my grief.

Things escalated from there.

Emma accused me of being “dramatic” and said I was ruining her big day over “one little joke.”

My parents took her side, saying I should just let it go and show up to support my sister.

They even mentioned again how I should give Emma the family necklace, saying that since I’m “not using it anymore,” it should go to her now.

Since then, I’ve been bombarded with calls from my parents, Emma, and even Luke.

They’ve all told me I’m selfish, that I need to “move on” and stop holding onto the past.

Luke even said I should be grateful my family didn’t disown me when I came out, as if I owe them something for barely tolerating me.

Now, I’m questioning everything.

Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go to her wedding after all this?

Part of me wonders if I should just suck it up and go, but another part of me can’t believe how little my family seems to care about Lily, or me, for that matter.

AITA for refusing to go to the wedding and keeping the family necklace, or should I just give in to keep the peace?”

Check out what folks had to say on Reddit.

This person shared their thoughts.

Another individual said he’s NTA.

This person chimed in.

Another individual didn’t hold back.

And this reader had a lot to say.

Who says something like this?!?!

No one with a soul, that’s for sure.

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