What would you do if a relative you didn’t get along with very well showed up at your door shortly after you had given birth? You have a newborn baby, and now an unwanted houseguest.

You’re probably also hormonal and sleep deprived, so thinking before you speak and controlling your emotions and temper might also be a challenge.

Doesn’t sound like this will end well, does it?

That’s the situation in today’s story. Let’s see how it all plays out.

AITA for not letting mil help with my confinement and insulting my hubby in the process

I 24 (F) just had my first baby with my husband 27(M) and in Nigeria, we have this tradition called omugwo, where either of our moms comes to help out after childbirth.

I wanted my mom to come because we have a better dynamic, but my MIL is way more traditional, and we just don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things, especially household stuff.

Lately, I’ve been really struggling postpartum I don’t like being touched, I’m super sensitive to light and sound, and everyone has respected that except my MIL.

We’ve always had a decent relationship, just not when it comes to how things should be done around the house.

Her MIL is not happy.

A few days ago, she called to ask when she should come.

And I politely told her I had already asked my mom.

She lost it, saying that’s not how things are done, that she needed to bond with the baby, that I was being disrespectful, lazy, and keeping her from her grandchild.

I corrected her and told her she would see the baby, just not with living with us.

She immediately called my husband, but thankfully, he backed me up, saying it was my choice since I was the one who gave birth.

MIL doesn’t seem to know how to take “no” for an answer.

Fast forward to the day my mom was supposed to arrive she was already being so supportive, even telling me I should just let MIL come for peace’ sake and they could be here together.

But I stood my ground to many people in the house.

Not even a minute after my mom arrived, MIL showed up with FIL and her bags, ready to move in.

I told her no, she wasn’t staying here.

She completely lost it, yelling that I was a bad DIL, an even worse mother, and that I wasn’t giving my child what he deserved.

OP couldn’t hold back her true feelings any longer.

At that point, I snapped.

I told her I didn’t want her here because all she’d do was criticize everything I was doing wrong while giving her son a pass for being lazy just like she did with her husband and her other son.

I told her she wasn’t going to come into my home and make me feel like a maid, and that I deserved to be surrounded by people who actually love me, not people who pick and choose when to care.

I also said she wasn’t going to use my child as a second chance at parenting because she failed the first time.

She knows she messed up.

The second the words left my mouth, I regretted them.

My husband who had been so supportivejust looked so hurt and walked away.

MIL looked like she swallowed a whole duck, and FIL, while understanding that I didn’t want her there, said I didn’t have to be so harsh.

Now, my SIL and in-laws are blowing up my phone, and honestly, I don’t even know what to do next. AITA

Really, this is MIL’s fault for showing up when she was told she was not welcome to live there.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person points out that she tried to tell her MIL “no” in a nice way.

This person thinks she should talk to her husband.

This person is proud of her for standing up for herself.

Another person is on OP’s side but also thinks it couldn’t hurt to apologize for her choice of words.

She needs to stand up for herself, or her MIL will continue to push boundaries.

This mother-in-law sounds like a nightmare!

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