Surgeries are nerve-wracking.

This is why it’s important to have someone to hold your hand and say everything will be okay.

In this woman’s case, though, her husband was accompanying her until he took off for three hours, allegedly for a burger.

She was all alone before, during and after her surgery. Until he arrived with roses.

She didn’t accept them and is now wondering if she was in the wrong.

Let’s analyze the situation.

AITAH for not accepting a dozen roses from my husband after my surgery?

I had to have a lumpectomy on one of my breasts due to cancer.

My husband took me to the hospital for the procedure and left to go “run errands.”

I had never had this procedure done before, and finding out I had cancer was a scary thing.

He said he’d be right back while they were prepping me for surgery.

But he didn’t.

Once I was ready and waiting to go into surgery, the nurse asked if I wanted my husband to come sit with me until it was time to go in.

I said yes, but she came back and said she couldn’t find him.

I sat in the room by myself for an hour, and he still didn’t show.

I went into surgery without any reassurance from him, no kiss on the cheek with an “I love you” or “Everything will be okay.”

It was such a lonely feeling and I was wishing that I had brought my mom with me instead.

She should have.

The procedure was done within an hour, and I was in the recovery room.

Once my anesthesia wore off, I was awake and realized my husband STILL had not returned.

At this point, I was really getting worried.

The nurse said he wasn’t answering his phone, and she seemed irritated that he wasn’t there.

She really needed someone there after the surgery as well.

The nurse went on to give me post surgery directions, which I was only half listening to because I was still kind of out of it, plus with my increasing worry of where the hell my husband was.

The nurse comes in after a half hour and says,

“Sweetie, we are still trying to call him, but if he doesn’t get here soon, you won’t be able to leave. There is a big storm coming in, and this wing will be on lockdown until the storm passes.”

She was struggling without him.

I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes.

I just wanted to go HOME.

Ten more minutes go by and he waltzes in with a dozen roses, like he was the most thoughtful husband ever.

When I asked where he was, he told me he was at the bar because he was hungry for one of their delicious burgers.

Why don’t I believe him?

I told him that I had been waiting alone throughout the whole ordeal, and that he should have been there for me.

He said he was sorry and held out the roses.

I told him he could take the roses and shove it, and that I was never having him come with me during a medical procedure ever again, because he SUCKED.

I was getting part of my breast removed while he had a tasty burger and a beer???????

Tears streamed down my face the entire ride home.

AITA?

That was a traumatic experience for her.

He was either up to something or is completely oblivious.

Bad either way.

Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this.

A commenter shares their thoughts.

Yup.

A reader shares their opinion.

That was negligent of him.

Another reader chimes in.

Possibly.

She held onto her dignity.

Accepting the flowers would be like agreeing they could possibly make up for his absence.

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