Friendships can fall apart when someone starts dating a person that doesn’t mesh with their friends.

Maybe there’s history there or perhaps it’s just a vibe check.

But when your friend is truly in love, it can become a question of making the best of it and learning to appreciate the significant other, or warning their friend that they may be making a terrible mistake.

Where do you draw the line?

In today’s story, one friend so dislikes his pal’s significant other that he’s refusing to take part in their wedding.

Check it out.

AITA for telling my best friend I don’t want to be in his wedding because I don’t support his relationship?

This is certainly a real pickle, and may spell the end of their friendship.

So I’m 30 and my best friend (29) has been like a brother to me since we were kids. We’ve always had each other’s backs, through school, relationships, work, everything.

Their relationship has lasted a long time, and has obviously been very important to both of them. But a new romance might spell the end of everything.

He got engaged last year to someone he’s been dating for about two years. I’ve never liked her.

She’s not abusive or anything, but she’s incredibly manipulative in subtle ways.

His buddy has been with his new girlfriend for two years, but the OP finds her manipulative and unlikeable.

He used to be relaxed, funny, super social.

Now he always seems stressed and guarded, like he can’t say what he really thinks.

I’ve brought it up to him before, carefully, and he always gets defensive or changes the subject. So I dropped it.

He’s been noticing changes in his friends, and he thinks it’s due to the emotionally manipulative behavior of the guy’s girlfriend.

Talking to him about his change in personality hasn’t helped.

A few weeks ago he asked me to be his best man. I told him no.

I said I love him and always will, but I can’t stand up there and pretend I support the relationship.

But that doesn’t mean that he supports this marriage, and so he can’t in good conscience be a part of the wedding.

I told him it wouldn’t feel right to be part of a celebration I don’t believe in.

He just said “okay” and hasn’t talked to me since.

It’s been a week.

Some of our friends say I was honest and did the right thing, others say I’m being selfish and should’ve just supported him no matter what.

AITA?

When he told his friend how he felt, the friend was clearly upset. They haven’t spoken in a week.

Now the rest of their friend group is saying that he’s acting selfish. What do you think?

So what do other people conclude from this tale of woe?

Well, this person warns that even though the OP had to follow their conscience, they likely did it at the expense of the friendship.

And another person warns them that though it seems counterintuitive, this may not be the best way to warn a person that their relationship is a bad one.

This person says that no matter what happens next, they have to be committed to standing by their friend and supporting them.

Another agrees, saying that alienating them now may drive them further into the arms of their toxic love.

But another commenter urges caution, saying we are only hearing one side of the story. What, exactly, is meant by “manipulative?”

But all in all, most people know exactly the dynamic that this friend fears, and says that being there for them now will be meaningful for their friend, even if he doesn’t realize it yet.

Friends should be honest, even if it comes at a price.

But you have to be willing to pay that price before you go in.

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