Parenthood tends to put even established relationships to the test, especially when the workload isn’t equally shared.

When her husband slept in every day and refused to lift a finger while she worked full time, she begins to wonder just how much more she could take.

Read on for the full story!

AITAH for resenting my husband for sleeping

My (30F) husband (27M) has always insisted on sleeping in.

He doesn’t work, so until this past year, it hasn’t been an issue.

But then came parenthood and still no help.

However, last year we had our first child in July, and it hasn’t changed.

On top of not taking care of her for any night wakings unless I outright refuse, he also won’t do the wake-up routine with her.

This leaves her with an exhausting workload.

So essentially, I’m up all night with her and then up early in the morning to either take care of her or get ready for work.

I work a high-stress job, and I really don’t get breaks during the day except to pump.

She tries to seek outside intervention.

I’ve tried talking to him about it, both alone and in marriage counseling.

Even our counselor said it wasn’t fair that he’s the only one who sleeps in or gets to sleep through the night.

But this doesn’t seem to clean up his attitude.

If I wake him up and ask him to help with the baby, he throws a fit that includes mumbling nasty things about me to the baby and under his breath, making passive-aggressive comments out loud in other rooms, and refusing to talk to me.

However, he always finds a way to make me feel like I’m in the wrong when I try to bring it up.

AITA?

No matter how capable you are, everyone needs support — especially from their partner.

What did Reddit have to say about this?

This commenter wonders if her husband is even bringing anything to the table at all.

Partners are supposed to support each other.

This commenter hopes this husband at least rises to the occasion while his wife is at the office.

It’s high time this man starts stepping up.

She thought marriage meant partnership, but he seems to think it means indentured servitude.

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