Gender expression is often referenced by many conservative people as only valid if it’s traditional.

When the pressure to be traditional comes from your own family, it’s painful to say the least.

See what’s going on with this family.

AITA For Not Wearing a Dress?

I’m a cis masculine leaning lesbian that’s literally had top surgery.

I have not worn a dress or dressed feminine in years.

My family is for the most part, accepting.

My sister is getting married and I am in the wedding party.

The preparation is far from joyous.

It’s already so incredibly stressful to find formal wear as a 5’1 person who wears men’s clothing, so the plan was me to just wear what the groomsmen are wearing and get it tailored.

That enabled my sister to call the company and get some swatches of fabric and make me a tie with the sage green floral print the bridesmaids are wearing.

Apparently her future mother-in-law doesn’t like the idea of me being in the bridal party and wearing a suit.

That stirred up more trouble.

So my sister wants me to just “Suck it up and wear the dress.”

I just responded with, if it’s such an issue, I’m not going to be in the wedding.

My entire family is basically insinuating I’m selfish for not “Sucking it up for one day” and just wearing the dress to make my sister happy.

AITA?

Should I just put my own comfort aside and wear a dress to make my sister happy?

Here is what people are saying.

Exactly. The irony of them expecting consideration for their gender expresssion.

See? It’s not hard.

Definitely. Don’t expect people to tolerate someone hating them.

Exactly. How can they not see their hypocrisy and shallowness?

Definitely. Hate is still alive and well.

This wedding planning is a bad omen.

And this family needs to get it together.

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