Marriage works best when private conflicts stay between the couple.

But one woman felt like every disagreement turned into a three-way battle when her husband ran to his mother for help. With her mother-in-law acting as the judge, jury, and executioner, she’s starting to feel like she could snap at any second.

Is she being unreasonable for wanting her husband to stop confiding every detail to his mother, or does her husband need to learn the meaning of privacy?

You’ll want to read on for this one.

AITAH for asking my husband to stop telling his mom everything?

I live with my husband in a small apartment. Not too fancy, just enough.

We’ve been married for two years.

Things were fine at first, I guess. Until I started noticing this pattern that’s now driving me insane.

Her husband has begun exhibiting some trouble behavior.

Every time we argue—like, every single time—he runs to his mom.

And no, not just a “hey mom, I’m stressed” kind of talk. He gives her all the details.

What we said. What we fought about. What I supposedly did.

Word for word breakdown. Like he’s building a case against me.

And his mother’s reaction is usually swift.

And then, boom.

The next day, I get a text from her. Or a cold stare. Or a passive-aggressive comment at lunch when we visit.

Sometimes she even posts vague stuff on Facebook, like “A good man deserves peace in his own home.”

Yeah, I see you.

Even small things cause a world of trouble.

One time we had a stupid fight about laundry. LAUNDRY.

He told her.

She called me to tell me “A wife should know her husband’s routine by now.”

I wanted to scream.

But when she brings up how much this upsets her, her husband refuses to hear it.

I tried to talk to him about it, calmly. I told him I felt like our relationship wasn’t private anymore. That he should come to me if there’s a problem, not his mom.

I mean, we’re grown. We live on our own. Why does it feel like we have a third roommate who’s always on speakerphone?

And he said I was the problem. That he “needs someone to talk to” and “she’s family.”

The issue still stands, regardless.

Like okay, I get that. But what about my side? What about keeping boundaries? What about the fact that I’m constantly getting judged based on his version of the story?

I snapped.

I told him I couldn’t take it anymore. That if he wants a wife and a full-time referee, he can go back to living with his parents.

Now he’s mad. She’s mad. I’m the villain. Again.

And I’m sitting here thinking… was I really out of line for asking for privacy in our marriage?

AITA?

If he keeps dragging his mother into every conflict, this marriage may never recover.

What did Reddit have to say?

This user isn’t feeling confident things will ever turn around for this couple.

There’s a name for men like this…

What she’s asking for is completely reasonable.

If the tables were turned, he definitely wouldn’t like it.

Privacy and respect shouldn’t be too much to ask for, especially from your husband.

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