Traditions in friendships should be honored no matter how many years have passed.

If you had an annual friends only trip, what would you do if your partner insisted on coming with you? Would you let them tag along, or would you refuse?

This man has college friends who take an annual “boys only” trip.

As they were all guys, this actually meant “no partners” allowed, but this particular man is gay so his partner is also a boy. Does that mean he should get to go too?

Read the full story below for more details.

AITA for telling my husband that he can’t come on our “boys-only” trip?

When we were in college, my (30M) friends decided to host an annual boys-only trip where we would hike, camp, and just relieve off our stress.

It happens only once a year on a weekend.

The rules specifically said that no partners were to be brought along as most of us were starting to date women at the time.

This man eventually came out as gay and married another man.

I was single.

Bringing in a romantic partner just seriously messes up the dynamic of the entire group.

When I came out as gay, my entire friend group was extremely supportive.

I got married to my husband, Kevin (29M), two years ago. We’ve been together for four.

His husband asked if he could come since he is technically a “boy.”

The weekend is coming up soon, and Kevin asked me if he could come along since he is also a boy.

I cited the “No Partners” rule to him, but he said that was made with straight couples in mind.

And he’s true. It was originally made for only straight couples in mind.

But we have also since agreed that bringing partners of any gender will ruin the dynamic of the group.

He gently explained the rule, but his husband has been cold and distant since.

I explained this gently to my husband.

He said he understood, but he’s been cold and distant.

When I asked him, he said that I’m promoting heteronormative values.

AITA?

His partner going on the trip would change the dynamic. It’s a friends trip not a couples trip.

Let’s see the reactions of other people to this story on Reddit.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

People agree with him.

Another valid point from this person.

Indeed. Short but true.

Finally, genders don’t matter, say this person.

Sometimes, keeping tradition means making hard choices—even when love is involved.

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