Some things are better left in the past…

And it sounds like this teenager feels that way about their mom!

But should she give her another shot?

After going years without their mom, two teenage siblings finally agree to meet her in person. It doesn’t go well.

Let’s see what’s going on here…

AITA for refusing to give my mom a second chance and cursing at her when she tried speaking to me?

“My parents got divorced in 2017 and me (17) and my sister (15) split time between both our parents.

In 2019 my mom started dating this guy.

One day she told us her boyfriend’s kid had cancer and that they needed her so she’d need to stop seeing us for a while because it wasn’t safe to risk getting his kid sick.

She told our dad he needed to have custody of us for now and once her boyfriend’s kid was better she’d be back.

Her mom went years without seeing her kids.

In 2021 she got married to this guy and wanted me and my sister to meet him over Zoom.

We said no.

We hadn’t seen our mom in two years and she called twice in that time.

She was upset that we refused.

It gets worse.

Then later in 2021 her husband’s kid got Covid. He still had cancer.

Mom called dad to say it was a matter of time and to prepare us for a funeral.

Her husband’s kid passed away and mom expected us to be at the funeral and she thought things would go back to normal just like that.

It didn’t.

They cut her off.

We didn’t go to the funeral and we ignored her calls.

My sister spoke to her once a couple of weeks after but I didn’t at all.

Then we found out her husband had at least one other kid.

Mom wanted the family to meet.

Not gonna happen!

I said no.

My dad told me it was fine and we’d figure it out. With both me and my sister saying no there was more silence from mom for another two years.

In 2023 mom told dad she was pregnant and wanted us to come over.

Dad told her she needed to do more than that and she went silent.

This woman…

In October 2024 mom had her lawyer write to dad to say she wanted 50% custody back.

Dad’s lawyer wrote back and said that was not happening and she had abandoned us for years.

There was lots of stuff going on and mom tried to show up to my birthday and my grandparents made her leave before I saw her. I didn’t want to see her which I’d said to them beforehand.

Mom ended up asking for a second chance and saying she’d do anything to have us back in her life.

My sister talked to her a bit but said no to a relationship.

I didn’t talk to her.

They finally agreed to see their mom.

Then a month ago she pushed it so hard and was trying to bring lawyers and court in again that I said fine.

She came over and told us she was sorry and she made excuses that a very sick little boy she loved had needed her and she told us it was wrong for dad not to make us go to the funeral and she had felt so bad when we didn’t go.

She blamed grief and a now deceased kid being sick for her sucking as a mom. She said we had other siblings and we needed to be a family again.

They aren’t having it.

I told her to back off and called her excuses garbage. I told her she chose her husband and his kid(s) over us and I didn’t want anything to do with her. I told her I didn’t want to go to that stupid funeral and didn’t want to comfort her because she didn’t deserve any from us. And I called her a bad mom and told her to **** her husband when that’s all she cares about and leave us alone.

Mom tried to yell at me but dad shut her down and got her out.

She’s demanding an apology for how I spoke to her.

Even my grandma (mom’s mom) is saying I should apologize and give her a second chance because she’s my mom and I don’t like it coming from her because she’s so sweet.

AITA?”

Their mom basically abandoned them and chose her second husband’s kid over them. It would be hard to move past that.

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This reader had a lot to say.

Another individual chimed in.

This Reddit user said they’re NTA.

Another individual spoke up.

They moved on with their life and left their mom in the past.

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