Isn’t it annoying when family members stay friends with your ex?

Imagine going through a difficult breakup, but years later, your mom is still friends with your ex and even defends her when she’s rude to your new partner. Would you put up with it or confront your mom about the situation?

This guy shares how his mom kept inviting his ex to everything, and he eventually gave her an ultimatum.

Now, he’s wondering if he went too far.

Check out how things escalated.

AITAH for threatening to ban my mother from my wedding and meeting her grandchild if she doesn’t cut off my ex-girlfriend?

I 28M am marrying my current Fiancée Maddy, 24F this November and we’re expecting our first son in February.

Prior to my current partner, I dated my ex-girlfriend Adriana 29F for 5 years.

Things did not end well with my last relationship.

This is where it gets crazy…

She was upset that I was taking too long to marry her and upset that I wanted to make a career change when it turned out I hated my career that I was starting in human resources.

Two and a half years ago, she broke up with me despite me telling her that I was close to getting ready to propose to her, I just wanted to finish my school for my new career in healthcare and then I would be ready.

It tore me up for long time, especially since over the time we were together she got very close to my family, particularly my mom.

That meant I couldn’t even get away from her at some family events.

Eventually, he moved on.

Two years ago I met Maddy at a work function and we hit it off immediately.

We moved in within six months of knowing each other, I had proposed by a year since I had achieved the career track I wanted, and a couple of months ago we found out she was pregnant.

I couldn’t be happier with how things have turned out for me recently.

UH OH…

Adriana, learning about how fast things went with Maddy, went ballistic. She called me and said I was a piece of crap who used her and led her on, and said many vile things to me.

She started saying awful things about me to any mutual who could listen, and even started leaving negative reviews at the hospital I work at naming me by name.

Those eventually got taken down, but it was incredibly embarrassing.

I spoke with a lawyer to see what my options were, but he said I didn’t have many options for relief.

Things got worse afterwards!

Last week, after having dealt with this for a while, I ran into her at my mom’s birthday party.

At that party, she happened to “accidentally” spill a drink on my fiancée, and during a speech about my mother, she sniped at me saying “I love this wonderful woman, and am glad she gave birth to 3 wonderful children” while glaring at me (My mom had 4 kids).

When she was leaving, she also “accidentally” dinged my car with her driver side door.

He had no idea what was up!

After she left, I sat down with my mother and said that my ex was making my life harder for no reason, listed the things I mentioned above and asked her to not invite her to events anymore.

She pushed back saying that Adriana was a decent friend to her and she likes Adriana’s mother a lot so it would be difficult for her to cut her off.

I said that I understand that, but I am asking as her son to support me when somebody is mistreating me.

She said we’d talk about it further.

That is so weird!

Yesterday, I found out that Adriana was coming to my youngest brother’s track tournament.

I called my mom and asked her to uninvite Adriana.

She said she couldn’t.

I said “Let me make this more clear for you then. If you are saying yes to her, you are saying no to me. If you decide to support her in this, you can consider yourself uninvited to my wedding, and not a part of the family I am building. You can also say goodbye to meeting your first grandchild”.

She called me mean and cold.

I said I am about this.

She was being so unreasonable!

The fallout from this has been more than I was expecting.

Adriana went nuts when my mom cut her off, and I got a bunch of mutuals saying I was a massive AH for destroying the relationship between my mom and Adriana.

My mom is pretty upset with me, but I know she’ll eventually come around.

My fiancée is happy that I am standing up for her and us.

My question is: Did I go too far? AITA for threatening to cut off my mom if she didn’t cut off Adriana?

YIKES! That sounds so problematic!

Good for him for standing up for his fiancée!

Let’s find out what people on Reddit think about this one.

This user knows that this guy needs to keep his child away from the mom.

This user wants this guy to uninvite the mom from the wedding.

That’s right! This user knows that the mom should have cut this girl off long ago.

This user thinks the ex needs some help here!

Exactly! This user thinks the mom is absurd!

His mother is being unreasonable.

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