Weddings have a funny way of bringing out any simmering family tensions to the surface.

One woman had always revered her mother for being the person to raise her alone after her father left.

But when her dad came back into her life and insisted on walking her down the aisle, she had a tough decision to make.

After everything, did her dad really deserve that honor?

Read on for the full story.

AITA for refusing to let my dad walk me down the aisle?

I (27F) am getting married next spring.

For context, my parents divorced when I was 10. My mom raised me and my younger sister pretty much on her own.

Her dad, on the other hand.

My dad was in and out of the picture—some birthdays, a few holidays—but he was never consistent and definitely not the one who raised me.

Now that I’m getting married, my dad suddenly wants to play “super involved father.”

He’s been telling everyone how excited he is to walk me down the aisle and how he’s always dreamed of this moment.

But this just doesn’t feel fair to her mother.

Meanwhile, my mom is the one who worked two jobs, got me through college, and has always been there.

So I told my dad that I’m not comfortable with him walking me down the aisle.

Instead, I want my mom to do it.

This really upset him.

He got extremely upset and said I was punishing him forever for his mistakes and that I’d regret humiliating him in front of the whole family.

He even tried to get my fiancé on his side, but my fiancé said it’s my call.

Now the rest of the family’s taking sides.

Now some relatives are saying I should just let him do it to keep the peace, and that it’s only symbolic anyway.

But to me, it isn’t symbolic—it’s about who’s actually been there for me.

So, Reddit… AITA for refusing to let my dad walk me down the aisle?

This isn’t a role that’s owed to her father — he has to actually earn it.

What did Reddit have to say?

This commenter challenges this bride-to-be’s perception on a few things.

Actions have consequences.

This guy really has a lot of nerve talking about “punishment”.

First her father needs to prove that he’s actually capable of changing.

In the end, she had to put herself first and honor the parent who raised her.

Her dad can’t just come back into her life when it’s convenient for him.

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