If you had a job that made enough money that your spouse didn’t need to work, would you be okay with your spouse quitting their job and staying home to clean the house and pursue their hobbies, or would you want them to continue working?

In today’s story, one man doesn’t like the idea of his girlfriend being a stay at home wife if they get married, and he’s not sure how to tell her without upsetting her.

Let’s read the whole story.

WIBTA if I told my girlfriend I won’t propose to her if she doesn’t want to work?

My girlfriend (F37) and I (M36) both currently work and both agreed to be a childfree couple as neither of us wants to ever have kids.

Recently she’s been making more allusions of wanting to be a SAHW in the future and no longer work.

This took me back a bit as I was under the impression we would be a DINK couple.

His girlfriend imagined her future differently.

When I asked her what she would do at home in the future, she mentioned taking care of the cats, pursuing crafts and keeping the home tidy, some of which are responsibilities that I currently take on myself while keeping a job.

I’m not opposed to my partner doing soul-searching or looking for a new career, but if we sit down and have a conversation where she expresses she truly never wants to work again, WIBTA if I told her I would not ever propose to her as I would not want to be legally and financially tied to someone with these aspirations?

I know she has previously mentioned wanting to be married so I don’t foresee this conversation going splendidly.

It’s important to have conversations about goals, expectations and finances before getting married.

He should definitely let her know that he imagined their future differently.

If they can’t get on the same page, this relationship has no future.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person advises him not to marry her.

Another person points out that there’s an obvious red flag.

He could break up with her without telling her why.

Even if she claims she’ll work, she probably won’t.

Nobody thinks he should marry her.

This relationship isn’t going to work.

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