October 31, 2025 at 5:55 pm

Young Woman’s Brother Wants To Borrow Her Car, But He’s Not A Responsible Driver, So She Said No And Their Parents Are Mad At Her

by Ashley Ashbee

Woman in the driver's seat, looking behind herself

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Lending your car to a family member seems like a no brainer to some people, but not to folks who are risk averse or understand liability.

See why this woman is not comfortable with her brother driving her car.

AITAH for not letting my brother borrow my car.

My younger brother asked to borrow my car last weekend so he could go on a trip with his friends.

I said no because I use that car for work every day and I also pay all the expenses like fuel insurance and repairs.

She also has major concerns.

He does not even have his own insurance and he has gotten a speeding ticket before.

He got really upset and told me I was selfish.

My parents also hinted that I should have just let him take it since it was only for two days.

No one understands or cares.

But I did not feel comfortable with it.

If something happened to the car it would be on me and I cannot afford that risk.

Now I am wondering if I was being too harsh. AITAH for saying no to him even though it caused a fight in the family?

Here is what people are saying.

They are hypocrites.

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Yep. Usually parents think about this very situation.

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He’s acting like a kid.

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Can you imagine the expense?!

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Indeed. Not her fault he is cheap.

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What an entitled bunch.

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Ashley Ashbee | Contributing Writer, Workplace & Culture

Ashley Ashbee is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in workplace dynamics, employee advocacy, and professional culture. Drawing on her real-world experience as a software consultant, she brings a unique, insider perspective to navigating office conflicts, toxic management, and trending professional dilemmas.

Holding a degree in Professional Writing from York University, Ashley combines her formal editorial training with her corporate background to deliver highly engaging, empathetic narratives. She excels at breaking down complex workplace dramas and translating them into stories that truly empower and validate modern workers.

Based in St. Catharines, Ontario, Ashley balances her time between the tech and publishing worlds with her love for the outdoors. When she isn’t consulting or writing, she can usually be found exploring local walking trails or experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen.

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