I know people who were in sororities and fraternities when they were in college .

Some people loved it, some didn’t like it at all, and some were totally indifferent about the experience.

But they all came to those conclusions on their own.

The young woman who wrote this story is in a different boat, because her mom keeps pressuring her to join a sorority…and she’s not exactly on board with the idea.

Is she being unreasonable?

Read on and see what you think.

AITA For Not Wanting to Join a College Sorority Out of Spite?

“My mom has this unshakeable belief that I have no friends, and I would rather be cooped up in my room doing school work and hobbies.

She thinks that if I join a sorority, I’ll make some lasting friendships and it’ll solve all of my “problems.” She was in a sorority herself, so her logic is “since I had a good experience, you will too.”

Originally, I wasn’t really bothered by her pressuring. My college does deferred rush, meaning that the rushing for sororities happens in the spring and not the fall.

That way, we get time to go to sorority events and get to know the houses. I thought, “ok, I’ll hear her out and try the events to see if I like it.”

She wasn’t into it…

I ultimately ended up feeling that the experience was not for me, and I have expressed this numerous times to my mom. Every time I express this, she thinks up some excuse to dispel my argument like “you have a preconceived notion about the girls in it” or “you just haven’t done enough.”

It doesn’t matter how I think or feel, she must find a way to discount it.

It’s gotten to the point where just because I won’t commit to a sorority, I am “making her depressed.” I have experienced so many arguments, yelling, and tears and just “this is hurting me!” It’s become all about herself.

Her mom is making her life miserable.

Doing well in classes? It doesn’t matter; I’m not doing enough for sororities.

I joined this cool club? A club is nothing; sororities are better. If I go home she wants to strike up a conversation about sororities, nothing else.

It feels like all of my value here in college comes down to this one thing. It’s making me feel trapped and it’s degrading on my mental health.

She’s even gone the extra mile to share my Instagram with people I don’t know, and give my phone number to another person, whom I also don’t know. I’m not on social media a lot, so this made me very uncomfortable.

Other people see what’s going on.

I had a professor notice the shift in my mood, so she asked me what was troubling me and I explained this to her. Everyone, including her, that I have explained my situation to has said something along the lines of “it’s not for everyone, it’s ok if you don’t want to do it.” Even my dad encourages me to do what I want. It is only her.

I’ve reached my limit, and I’m at the point where, come this spring, I’m considering not even rushing, not just because I don’t like it, but out of spite.

This is a real bummer.

If she wants to make me feel bad about myself because I won’t join a sorority, fine. I’ll make sure she knows that type of behavior will not get me to do it. It saddens me because what could’ve been this fun cool thing now feels like a burden to me.

I go to a sorority event and I just feel this deep sadness; it sucks. If I cave and actually join a sorority, I’m just letting her win, and it encourages her to behave like this again when she can’t get me to do something she wants.

I want to make a note: I’m sure she does this from a place of love, it’s just hurting me.

AITA for doing this out of spite?”

Reddit users spoke up.

This person shared their thoughts.

Another reader nailed it.

This individual had a lot to say.

Another person spoke up.

And this Reddit user didn’t hold back.

Greek life in college is DEFINITELY not for everyone.

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