Imagine dating someone you really like, and you’ve been dating for quite awhile. If you were invited to your partner’s family’s events, would you want to go, or would you try to find a polite way to refuse?

In this story, one man is in this exact situation, and he’s sick of going to his girlfriend’s family’s events. Should he go anyway?

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for refusing to a birthday party for one of my gf’s family members?

My girlfriend has a really big family and she is also really close with them too.

We’ve gone to several functions and for the most part they’re okay but it’s not something I enjoy doing all the time.

She asked me this once and I told her that while I’m ok spending time with her family, it’s also exhausting the number of events we are invited to. I also don’t really enjoy myself at these functions.

He finds a lot of family events boring.

Some are fun like board game nights and whatever; but the other events are really hard for me to get through.

• Like we’re invited to birthday parties,
• Christening
• Graduations
• Holidays (I don’t even get to see my family on the holidays)
• Weddings

He would rather go to his friend’s party than another family event.

This has also means that a lot of my own plans are rescheduled or canceled and I miss other time with my friends and family.

One friend in particular is hosting a get together on December 20 of this year.

I really want to go and I’ve missed this get together like 4 times already because I’ve done things with my gf and her family.

He made a stand.

Yesterday my gf’s mom told me that her second cousin was going to be having his 75th birthday party on the 20th.

My gf told me I would need to cancel with my friend.

And I told her I wasn’t going to do that this time and I am going to go to my friends party.

Now as you can imagine my gf is very upset with me now.

It does sound like they’re invited to a lot of events. I can see both sides of this situation though. It is nice that they want to include him in their family events.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person thinks the answer is simple.

It’s about respect.

This person explains why the girlfriend is confused.

Another person shares how they weren’t prepared for what was coming in this story.

There is such a thing as too many family events.

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